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. . . and SHE said "Time Wounds All Heals". There's a flip side . . .
Amazing how the omission of pertinent details can influence the readers' sensibilities.
HIS "Beloved"
posted by
Shams-i-Heartsong
on August 17, 2006 at 8:35 PM
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posted by
FactorFiction
on August 16, 2006 at 6:07 AM
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Thank for your comment... yes she was abused
posted by
Shams-i-Heartsong
on August 16, 2006 at 5:57 AM
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I am a women. Most women are not as complex as we pretend to be. We just need our needs met and we need affirmation for everything. Your beloved (I love how you call her that) is showing signs of hurt by shutting down (I know because I do that very thing). You men just want to FIX problems...when all we want is for you to just listen and then affirm what we say. I also think your beloved is walking on thin ice with her attitude and selfish behavior while you attempt to communicate. I sense in her there is a deeper root of past hurt causing this.
posted by
Cindy7
on August 15, 2006 at 7:02 PM
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Dear John, I am not afraid of soul searching and I will take your advice..
posted by
Shams-i-Heartsong
on August 13, 2006 at 1:47 PM
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Jim
Maybe with little by little things get better until they are healed. I hope so. Be blessed totally.
posted by
Justi
on August 13, 2006 at 12:48 PM
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Safe travels and good luck. Perhaps
circumstances will take care of the situation. Take the time, if possible, to do a little soul searching -- one on one with yourself, something that many people find awfully scary.
posted by
DearJohn
on August 13, 2006 at 12:45 PM
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Good advice fro both of you. I am leaving for two weeks of contract work
in ARkansas so that is taken care of. Thanks
posted by
Shams-i-Heartsong
on August 12, 2006 at 8:57 PM
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Shamsuddin_Jim, to give up expectation and to not get hooked are major accomplishments for the development of the soul (IMHO); so, if it takes something like this to arrive there, then (again IMHO) the experience is worth it. Liberation = Equanimity. MoonSpirit 
posted by
syzygy
on August 12, 2006 at 6:34 PM
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It's your call
It sounds as if she is holding all the cards, but only because you let it happen. Suggestion: Stop waiting for her. It sounds as if she has you around because (A) it is convenient and (B) she gets some kick out of dragging you around by the nose.
Suggestion: Get away for a few days and decide what YOU want. I assume it is NOT being at her mercy. Decide how you are and what you want. If she wants to come along, she will. If not, another will find you. Good luck.
posted by
DearJohn
on August 12, 2006 at 5:10 PM
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