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Blanche
Unfortunately, there has been a lot of things happened to me, some of which I'd rather forget. But, all in all, it has been a tremendous learning experience.
posted by
avant-garde
on August 9, 2006 at 3:41 PM
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Avant-Garde, what left an impression at 16 still affects you now, that's
not pathetic, it's human nature. That's why it's important to acknowledge the past, it can't just be buried, it has to be dealt with, and acknowledged first. You're not a sucker, you have a good heart, and a desire to help. It's sad that in this world you have had to learn about things like this, how do you prepare kids like your sons, without destroying what innocence is left in this world?
posted by
Blanche.
on August 9, 2006 at 1:52 PM
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Blanche
It sounds so utterly pathetic now. But, then I was so naive and I do like to help people. I must have had 'sucker' written all over me.
posted by
avant-garde
on August 9, 2006 at 1:36 PM
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Avant-Garde,
it could have been so much worse, you did listen to your own insticncts and leave. It's too bad he took advantage of your good nature and desire to help. I dislike being conned, too. Some things leave a mark.
posted by
Blanche.
on August 9, 2006 at 1:16 PM
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Rcky
It's sad, because they are literally everywhere. At church, at school, on the playground, on the fire and police departments... There is great value in informing young people about how they are treated and how to recognize the signs.
posted by
avant-garde
on August 9, 2006 at 11:35 AM
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Yup Avant....regardless of sexual preference there are a lot of predators
out there.
posted by
RckyMtnActivist
on August 9, 2006 at 11:33 AM
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Rcky
Well, I know that there are a lot more like him out there, and that all gay people do not act this way.
posted by
avant-garde
on August 9, 2006 at 11:31 AM
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Wow Avant...what a horrible experience but it seems like you learned
from it and you will pass that learning on to your boys. What a sicko...not all gay people are like that. If this guy was straight he would probably be luring young girls to his place.
posted by
RckyMtnActivist
on August 9, 2006 at 11:27 AM
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Mason
Yes, it is hard not to carry an aversion for all homosexuals because of this.
posted by
avant-garde
on August 9, 2006 at 11:11 AM
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Tanga
Men! LOL
posted by
avant-garde
on August 9, 2006 at 11:11 AM
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..don't feel like the Lone Ranger... I had similar close calls in my youth
(around the same age in fact)... it does have an effect, even when you don't get raped or partiscipate... for many years afterwards I pursued many unwise relationships with women just to prove to myself I wasn't gay... when there was nothing to prove... And of course there are many fine people who are gay and who would never attempt to push themselves onto those who are not... and I have known many over the years... life is a trip... how to get through it all and still manage to love unconditionally... good post!
posted by
MasonGarrett
on August 9, 2006 at 9:12 AM
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Not a nice experience
I once received a love letter form a male lecturer. Creepy!
posted by
Tanga
on August 9, 2006 at 7:30 AM
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bel
Maybe. I think now that I have been protected in many instances.
posted by
avant-garde
on August 9, 2006 at 7:02 AM
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Bhaskar
Thank you for your kind words as always.
posted by
avant-garde
on August 9, 2006 at 7:01 AM
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TAPS
I think you are right. My boys won't be shielded the way I was.
posted by
avant-garde
on August 9, 2006 at 7:00 AM
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Cringe
Hitchhiking is very dangerous here. I'm glad nothing bad happened to you.
posted by
avant-garde
on August 9, 2006 at 7:00 AM
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Avant
You were so lucky.
posted by
bel_1965
on August 9, 2006 at 6:34 AM
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Avant -
'My parents, in trying to shield me, the unquestioning authority....are the very reasons that made me vulnerable'. This was my assessment to your yesterday's wtite-up. I have now understood clearly when you replied saying, "A self-fulfilling prophecy." Its your racy narrative style that I find myself attracted to, and the subtle message that these convey. Beautifull presented!
posted by
Bhaskar.ing
on August 9, 2006 at 5:57 AM
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avant-garde, You were naive but you learned from it. What's to be ashamed of? Once burned, twice shy. I'll just bet you were aware after that. And, I'll just bet you do some teaching to your sons so that they will not be so naive.
posted by
TAPS.
on August 9, 2006 at 5:48 AM
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AG, this type of stuff used to happen to me a lot.
Granted though, you'd figure I'd be asking for it by hitch-hiking. I was a teenager, I had no sense of vulnerability.
There were two times I got myself in to potentially bad situations, one of them I was held down on the hood of a car but talked my way out of it, the second time I was picked up by some old guy who drove a couple of different cars and would turn every conversation in to something sexual, and jiggle on his seat. I was able to get out earlier than planned with this guy, memorized the plates of both cars so I wouldn't get in again.
There were other situations, but luckily, I was always able to talk my way out of them. I must've been demented.
posted by
Cringe
on August 9, 2006 at 4:53 AM
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RiFDaws
Thank you. Yes, it did do a lot to destroy my faith in people.
posted by
avant-garde
on August 9, 2006 at 4:25 AM
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True, you could have ben smarter, but...
.. you also did nothing wrong. In addition to this man abusing your trust in him, it's is events like this that make people less willing to help other people who may truly be in need. We can no longer trust that person on the side of the road standing beside a car with the hood up! sigh ... Evil destroys our community in more than one way.
posted by
RiFDaws
on August 9, 2006 at 4:19 AM
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Hadley
It was my own stupidity that caused it.
posted by
avant-garde
on August 9, 2006 at 4:01 AM
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I hate that shit. When authority figures abuse their power.
It makes wicked hard to trust people, even if they might be good people. The whole sexual thing can a person up even more, never mind the trust. Sorry that happened to you.
posted by
Hadley-Madison
on August 9, 2006 at 3:58 AM
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