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This type of situation is akin to the lawyer maxim: Never ask a
question you don't already know the answer to.
posted by
saul_relative
on June 6, 2006 at 10:31 PM
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boy, isn't that so true! and the great thing about it is, it works like a
charm.. people only know what you tell them so i just give 'em the good stuff, let's me control my own day. but i know what you mean about repeating the mistake 'til you learn. i was that way with my dad. it seemed right to tell him just because he's dad but his well-intentioned concern drove me batty.
posted by
fourcats
on June 6, 2006 at 5:16 PM
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If you do not want anything to be known by other first protect from friends
posted by
afzal50
on June 6, 2006 at 6:37 AM
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Azur,
It sounds like you handled that diplomatically. It seems to be true that people, particularly men who are usually problem-solvers by nature, sometimes mistake venting for a plea for help and/or solution to what seems to be the problem bothering you.
Your friends may have been honestly trying to help you, but I am dealing with a similar situation with the bureaucracy I'm dealing with: two suggestions I've had for employment in the last month are Russian interpreter for hospitals (now there is a stress-free occupation) and recycling waste management. If I tried, I could not think of two more polarized views. So, I am frequently miffed to get the suggestion that "any job is better than no job". No, it isn't. You have particular talents and skills and an inherent drive to write. So do I. I haven't exercised mine fully yet, but I'm working on it.
Also, advice is worth what you pay for it, imho.
posted by
Blanche.
on June 5, 2006 at 11:02 PM
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all of my friends knew immediately that I must be in a terrible situation
because, as they told me, I was the only one that never complained about my job. I never realized it until they brought it to my attention. It was true... not once in 10 years. I loved my job... so they've never seen me like this, nor has my family. I keep a lot inside and away from them, but they can still see how stressed I am. I know it worries them... so I don't talk too much about it. Instead, I blog.
posted by
-blackcat
on June 5, 2006 at 6:56 PM
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another good advice
but why should not we express our problems to close ones. after all friend is the hope to share all.
posted by
naorem
on June 5, 2006 at 6:18 PM
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