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Hi LaylaB....I knew you would get what I'm talking about..
Women need to be appreciated just a tiny bit more....Thanks for dropping by here...
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
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May 28, 2006
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I second that...
If you boys pay attention, we will take notice and be VERY appreciative!!!
LOL!
~L~ xo
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Anony_Miss
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May 27, 2006
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Hi Folks....I try to go and read the posts of everyone who comments to me..
But since I have a time management problem these days, please don't feel spited that I am group hugging anf thanking you collectively, for reading me, instead of commenting back to each and every one of you. Thanks for your support.
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
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May 25, 2006
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Yes, Lens....Women try so much harder to have men notice us...
The right hair, or top, or lipcolor...etc....Men are harsher towards how women look. As I always say, men can be homely but as long as they are a big success or have a huge wallet, it's easy street for them. Women are judged solely on their appearance, most times. Not fair, be we women recognize this early...I know you might not agree with the great Medusa, but I think I make some sense here..
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
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May 25, 2006
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Hi Medusa
Okay, I can live with "teensy," or maybe even more, since it's kind of fun doing all that stuff, anyway ;-)
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Lensman
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May 25, 2006
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I agree, Lens...balance is key, but I really, honestly believe.....
that women need just a teensy bit more of how wonderful we are or look by you guys. Men seem to hold the upper hand in alot of things, so......but I like your explanation....and yes, I think I look good in pink...but so do most women....nice for the complexion.....
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
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May 25, 2006
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Hi Medusa
I'm totally with you when you say it's important for men to notice the little things (or the big things) about women. Definitely. It's part of loving someone and it's one of those little things that can keep a relationship "perked up." To let that go flat is almost the kiss of death, I think. In a tough world, each partner in a loving union needs those little attentions and boosts.
Notice I said "each partner," though, and I'm going to fondly chastise you about this closing statement: Women need to have you notice them more than we need to notice you. Trust me.
Of course, I'm partly teasing you here, Medusa 
, but hey, I thought you were a centrist. Yet this teeter-totter is tipped in one direction since your experience in life is as a woman. For me to completely accept your above statement, then I would need to know you have also experienced being a man. I have some experience at that, though, so I can balance this teeter-totter by saying that men need women to notice us, too... I guess by now you've figured me out: I'm a lover of balance. I've learned that's the only way this world can work. Once the teeter-totter goes down at one end, it's all over. Of course, there won't always be a perfect balance because, when life's a bitch, things can get a little wobbly. But remaining as balanced as possible is the only way.
PS: I've always thought you'd look smashing in pink, too 
posted by
Lensman
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May 25, 2006
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women are more likely to notice and comment on little things I do than men
Men tend to notice the big things or perfume, but women seem mroe switched on to the little special things.
posted by
MsVision
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May 25, 2006
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I'm with you Medusa...
I can't speak for all women; only myself, but it's a guy noticing the little things that really hit me in my soft spot. Heck, rememering me telling him something trivial, but bringing it up at a later date lets me know he was listening. Excellent post!
posted by
Sturgis
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May 24, 2006
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medusa--
I would think that wanting to have little details noticed would be a universal desire among both men and women...I mean, it definitely feels good to know that someone is paying attention!
posted by
Julia.
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May 24, 2006
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It's not just women who need the strokes, either Medusa
My boyfriend got teary when I gave him a card with a copy of an Elizabeth Barrett Browning poem that read (I'll paraphrase), "Do not love me for any one quality, for a smile or a way of thinking because love like that may die but love me for love's sake". We do try to remember to compliment and appreciate each other every day, and the rewards are that we build each other instead of tearing each other down. Life is hard enough at times without the people closest (or anybody at all, really), taking pot shots or sniping, etc.
posted by
Blanche.
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May 24, 2006
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medusa
Point taken. I have been complimenting my wife much more than I used to, simply because it would be what I want to hear as well.
That having been said, I must confirm that most of the men I notice complimenting women say disgusting things about them when they aren't around. I see both sides of this situation, and it is why I do not use compliments much on women at all.
posted by
avant-garde
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May 24, 2006
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Ms Medusa,
Well, it's mutual. I am elated to say that I am hearing much positive news on the home front. Action is so much better than sitting with uncertainty, worry, and anxiety. So, I did hear from a key decision maker that I will have word this week yay or nay.
As for the rebuttal to Mlle, well, some questions don't need to be asked, or all will be reveled in the fullness of time. BTW, loved your email, and I have received other email as well. However, I have learned that not all is as it seems. As for the political realm, yes, I do have a plethora of opinions, but am busy focusing on my own issues right now.
posted by
Blanche.
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May 24, 2006
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Yes, Ms. N...The soft touch speaks volumes, too....
You know exactly what I mean...Great to see you here....
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
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May 24, 2006
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Well, David1, You are a smart dude...lol...
A little kindness goes a long way...And I think women should in turn, compliment their men, too...like, "hey, hon, your butt looks amazing in those khakis..." ha ha...
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
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May 24, 2006
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Guys must keep those eyes open
What most men should realize is how far even small compliments go. Just noticing the little things can bode very well later when the lights go down.
posted by
David1Spirit
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May 24, 2006
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Well, Taps...I'm sure Talion will love your compliment....lol....
See, I'm not married, but so many married women tell me their husbands rarely notice a new do, or outfit, or even new curtains, etc...
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
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May 24, 2006
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Well, Blanche...You've certainly made my day and week....
You are one smart cookie.....Stay focused and keep writing....That's what I aim to do in between all the other crap that we wade through in life....I like when you disagree with politics here, for ex., but brilliantly argue your point. I like your feminist ideals, too, and you told off Miss. Mademoiselle in oh, such a clever way....Gauche...tee hee...
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
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May 24, 2006
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Medusa,
Chris Rock, the comic, says that "Women need compliments and the occasional pair of shoes". Smart men know these things. Men who want to keep a woman happy have learned, I'm sure. Besides which, who doesn't want o thear the positve about themselves much more than the negative, and to feel valued and appreciated. I believe that constant reiteration of the negative probably erodes a lot of people's self-esteem and does more to ruin relationships of all stripes, that smart people who value their friends, coworkers, neighbors, and want to put more postive energy back into the world, look for the good.
Well said, I am so happy you are still here, but I dread your going, because our interaction is such a positive part of my day. Of course, you need to do what you need to do for yourself to manage your time and energy, but I just wanted to let you know how much I value your friendly comments and your witty, insightful posts.
posted by
Blanche.
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May 24, 2006
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I do have fun that way, Medusa.
For Valentines, I hid a bunch of little plastic eggs full of candy and clues around her house that directed her to her presents. Each clue was a really bad rhyming couplet, and since I was in a hurry to get it set up, I'm not sure everything was in the right place. But she found it all, anyway.
posted by
strat
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May 24, 2006
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Oh Strat...You're a wise a.......But I bet you write her great love notes..
Call me corny, but when Former Pres. Reagan wrote Nancy those cute love notes. well, as liberal as I am, I kind of said, "Aw-www. How sweet." Strat...women dig the compliments more than they will let on...
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
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May 24, 2006
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My problem is I like to tease my Beloved.
She got her hair trimmed and highlighted a couple of weeks ago, and was obviously waiting for me to say something. When I didn't, she couldn't stand it any more and said, "Did you notice anything different about me?"
So I looked puzzled, then asked her if she had mowed the lawn, cleaned the kitchen or gotten a nose job...
posted by
strat
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May 24, 2006
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Medusa
Thanks for the welcome...but it kind of a return for me. You knew me as Military_Wife
posted by
bel_1965
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May 24, 2006
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I agree Medusa...
Often times... an appreciative look coupled with a soft touch says it all.
posted by
Transcendental_Child
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May 24, 2006
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Dear, Thia is true sensitivism!
Karldean
posted by
Karldean
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May 23, 2006
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MadusaNextDoor, I think its a lost cause to try to get a man (especially if its a husband) to notice and compliment when you look good. That is, except for maybe Talion. LOL
posted by
TAPS.
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May 23, 2006
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Hello Bel 1965...Nice to see you...
Welcome here and glad you agree with my theory...Women just appreciate a man noticing even the tiniest thing....
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
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May 23, 2006
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Oh Burly....You're one of my favorite right-wingers...lol...
I'm sure you compliment the women you love...In fact, I have no doubts there.
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
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May 23, 2006
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Well said!!!!!
posted by
bel_1965
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May 23, 2006
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MedusaNextDoor
I feel exactly as you do but I can't remember why!
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Burly
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May 23, 2006
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