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ginnie
I think I would definitely not want people saying how sorry they were. In fact, I would probably try to cheer them up.
posted by
johnmacnab
on March 8, 2006 at 6:41 PM
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I guess Mac...
...a question might be...how would you want people to react? I would have been uncomfortable too...those are the awkward situations in life...I think I'd understand that people feel strange and try to compensate...probably wave to everyone!
posted by
ginnieb
on March 8, 2006 at 5:25 PM
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jacenta
I'm sure you are right, jacenta. A few seconds eye contact can say volumes.
posted by
johnmacnab
on March 8, 2006 at 2:25 PM
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Pat
I'm glad it all worked out for you, Pat. As I mentioned to brettnik, when my late wife was diagnosed with cancer, we kept on with our lives. Nearer the end she asked for no promises or vows, assuming I would do what was needed.
posted by
johnmacnab
on March 8, 2006 at 2:24 PM
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brettnik
When my late wife was diagnosed with cancer, she/we went on with life as if nothing had happened - until nearer the end. I loved Bradbury's weird and wonderful mind. Thank you brettnik.
posted by
johnmacnab
on March 8, 2006 at 2:18 PM
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Whacky
I sincerely hope so, Whacky.
posted by
johnmacnab
on March 8, 2006 at 2:13 PM
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Original
There is no right or wrong thing to say is there, Original? I remember a long time ago, when friend discovered she had cancer. She said 'Thank God. Now I can stop worrying about getting it."
posted by
johnmacnab
on March 8, 2006 at 2:12 PM
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johnmcnab
I can see where the situation would be disconcerting. Possibly, he understood how it affected you through body language and facial expression during the time of eye contact.
You and Ell, take care!
posted by
jacentaOld
on March 8, 2006 at 1:16 PM
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I once had a friend who had 3 months to live
And I told him I didn't know what to say to him, except that I was really going to miss him. He thanked me for not treating him like a baby or someone who'd suddenly become a defective. Then he told me he'd appreciate it if I'd do something for him. Turned out his wife would take his place as manager of the place we worked, and she was "hard to like" on a regular basis. I know she's going to need you to keep doing your job, and it's not going to be easy, he said. No problem, I said. I'll do it. He was right. She was a pain. But I had perspective, and it was all right.
posted by
Pat_B
on March 8, 2006 at 9:26 AM
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There's a lovely Ray Bradbury story where everyone in the world
has the exact same dream one night: the world would end the next day. And everyone decides to go on with the day, as if nothing was going to happen. No great excursions, no eating ridiculously, no grand proclamations. The story ends in the evening when a mother and daughter sit on the front porch to shell peas for tomorrow's dinner, eventhough they know there will be no tomorrow. I think that's how people want to be treated, as if they'll be there tomorrow. Nicely written piece. Enjoyed it!
posted by
brettnik
on March 8, 2006 at 6:33 AM
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I can see where you would be dumbfounded. Maybe what you did
was what you should do. Humm?
posted by
Whacky
on March 8, 2006 at 2:11 AM
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People react differently to the news. My aunt was told that she
had 3 months to live, but would need surgery and then total care. She decided to call it quits right then...and did. It is hard though, because there really isn't anything you can say.
posted by
Original_Influence
on March 7, 2006 at 8:09 PM
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FF
It is very sad, FF, and I still don't know what I should have done. Not that he cares, when I consider it.
posted by
johnmacnab
on March 6, 2006 at 6:08 PM
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Ouch.
I never respond well on the spur of the moment either... very sad...
posted by
FactorFiction
on March 6, 2006 at 4:11 PM
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