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I've gotten far more than I ever expected from the community at Blogit and look forward to much more enlightenment!

posted by TheNewMrs.C on February 10, 2006 at 4:52 PM | link to this | reply

I am glad you are not disappointed...
I am not either.

posted by _Symphony_ on February 9, 2006 at 5:23 AM | link to this | reply

nanaroo

in case you didn't see my answer to your question in my column...

snowball, clutch cargo, xila purrfle and candy caine.  four of the best friends i've ever had.  my name is in honor of their exquisite love.

posted by fourcats on February 8, 2006 at 10:59 PM | link to this | reply

Nana
You make us that way!! I am glad your here too!!

posted by Offy on February 8, 2006 at 8:11 PM | link to this | reply

Nanaroo...

I am glad you joined Blogit and it is terrific that you are not disappointed.

      BTW.   "Never count on anything until it actually happens."  That is what I

 always tell myself and my family about anything that they are looking forward

to. I don't feel I am pessimistic, only reality based.  hahaha  

Thanks for your visit!!!!!!!  

posted by jacentaOld on February 8, 2006 at 8:09 PM | link to this | reply

joleen!
thanks!  I was just on my way to visit you!

posted by Nanaroo on February 8, 2006 at 5:22 PM | link to this | reply

awww nanaroo...
you made me soften, thank you sweetness. i agree with your observations.

posted by joleen on February 8, 2006 at 5:20 PM | link to this | reply

so true

ex. vs real. - so true.  i worked in the retail record industry for ten years,  purchaser for a large record chain.  because of my position i was always getting back stage passes, going on boat cruises, anything to grease me into buying someone's stuff.  i've met some of the world's biggest music stars as a result and i have to say a lot of visions got shattered.  people whose music had been so inspiring to me only to turn out to be the biggest jerks.  happily the opposite also held true.  politeness and gracious behavior from some of the least expected.

like patricia arquette's character 'alabama' says in the movie 'true romance', " that's the way it goes.  but sometimes it goes the other way, too."

posted by fourcats on February 8, 2006 at 3:24 PM | link to this | reply

And the similarities mount
IT IS SO STRANGE THAT YOU WROTE ABOUT THIS... It is how I named my blog(I know this much is true) It is what I have found in the space between expectation and reality-- my truth!!!!

posted by doxbaby444 on February 8, 2006 at 3:21 PM | link to this | reply

Nanaroo
I have a saying that I use a lot. I've been using it so long I'm really not sure if I heard it or it's my own - no matter - here it is.

Disappointment is always caused by inaccurate expectations.

Please not that I didn't say unreasonable or unfair or unjustified. I said inaccurate. 

Once you accept that the key to not being disappointed is to put a lot of thought into forming an accurate expectation.

If it's about how someone in your life is going to respond to something forming an accurate expectation is really quite simple. Just do what people do in business forecasting - use history.  If someone has acted a certain way in similar situations in the past you can bet your bippy that they'll do the same this time. 

What often underlies this inaccurate expectation is that we confuse expectations with desires.  Wishing for an outcome doesn't increase the likelihood of realizing it - unless you happen to have a genie.

posted by Omni on February 8, 2006 at 2:15 PM | link to this | reply

Nanaroo,
A very profound truth, so well expressed.  If I change my expectations, I change my attitude, and if I change my attitude, I can see people for who they are, accept that and not be hung up on the way "should be". 

posted by Blanche. on February 8, 2006 at 1:05 PM | link to this | reply

Nan ~
I agree...

posted by AC_Allyn on February 8, 2006 at 11:50 AM | link to this | reply

NAN
Neither am I......if anything I have been pleasantly surprised.

posted by ALWAYSALOVER on February 8, 2006 at 11:25 AM | link to this | reply

I love this Nanaroo!
Little pockets of community...yes..we are that!  Diverse.

posted by ginnieb on February 8, 2006 at 11:06 AM | link to this | reply

Well thats good lol.......i agree...have most problems with this gap in my relationships

posted by Leafonariver on February 8, 2006 at 10:27 AM | link to this | reply