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JoJo! You are missed...!
~LB~ xoxo
posted by
Anony_Miss
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February 23, 2006
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Actually, they don't sound very happy at all
The women you describe sound traumatized. It will take time, TLC and therapy for them to heal and get beyond the pain.
posted by
rafika
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February 1, 2006
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hey jojo
where the heck have you been?
posted by
Nanaroo
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January 28, 2006
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JoJo--you are missed!
Hope to read you/hear from you soon!!! :-) ~LB~ xoxo
posted by
Anony_Miss
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January 27, 2006
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Hi JoJo,
I too am dealing with some of the same issues with what is happening to women in all walks who disappoint me all of the time for buying into a slippery slope republican initiative to deminish women's rights. When i see all of the youth these days who are so distant and unconcerned about anything at all, I have to think of the future and how things are getting worse and worse due to leadership being involved with all their boy games. Metaphors are used day and night 24/7 to ilicit strong mental images of fear and male superiority. It is the strict male moral authority that has clutched this country from the beginning. Some women feel helpless and hopeless. I suppose it is up to us to keep fighting for the rest of us. It has taken over a century to get women in the position to be independent and think for themselves. Sigh.
Keep on talking and writing about it JoJo. Peace sister.
posted by
joleen
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January 25, 2006
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Sometimes it seems easier..
Believe me, been there, done that. My birth mother was constantly in those situations. I can relate to the teenager, as it sounds much like my early childhood. Some of those scars heal much slower than others. It sounds like she may still not trust that she is secure; trust takes time, and with her experiences, hope gets lost. She will get there, and once she does there's no stopping her. Keep giving her hope, she will again begin dreaming. For the other woman, my mom was killed 17 years ago, by a man who loved her "too much". Because of her fear of being alone, she couldn't break free in time. Hopefully your friend can find that her happiness is and can only come from within herself. Being comfortable being alone takes time, but also can be achieved. It's great that you are there to bring that hope to them. Keep up the great work, and don't get too frustrated. They'll get there, and maybe quicker due to someone like you being there showing them the way.
posted by
LifeByLisa
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January 25, 2006
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Hi Jojo - Where are you?
posted by
fionajean
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January 25, 2006
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made me think of my Mom...
I love my Dad but frankly he's a real pig and it boggles my mind that my Mom has stayed with him all these years. I always say if I was her, I would've left him a long time ago. And she constantly complains how miserable she is with him and so forth but yet does nothing to change her situation. It's my opinion that change no matter how much you need it, can be very hard and scary. I believe in a way she is so used to the way things are and also thinks she will fail on her own. And even though she is convinced that my Dad will never change, she just won't take the necessary steps to move on. Now that I'm married, I can kind of understand her point though. Whenever my husband really pisses me off and I think about leaving him, my mind becomes overloaded with all the challenges and stress I would have to face to leave him. So you begin asking yourself, "is it worth it?" Sad to say, but sometimes it's just easier to be miserable.
posted by
Godiva
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January 23, 2006
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Jojostar,
I've been through hoops like this and thankfully, survived....
posted by
Nanaroo
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January 20, 2006
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Hi Jojo,
I was married to an emotionally abusive man for nearly 10 years. At one stage I'd actually resigned myself to the fact that this was my life. It's amazing how you don't feel that you can do any better. I stuck around primarily for financial security but he also had me convinced that I was wothless to him and everyone else.
posted by
fionajean
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January 20, 2006
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Jojo-This is such a touching post. It is time women learn not to be victims but learn how to celebrate life and live it fully.
posted by
Aria4
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January 17, 2006
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I realized the closeness of our blog names just the other day (I'm a little dense sometimes). Words have a way of percolating through your consciousness and ending up in your verbal productions. I don't know if that made any sense, but hey... have a good day. I see stairs as aspiration. While falling up the stairs seems like a little hiccup on the path to achieving the goals, a dead mouse under the stairs makes it more difficult because you have to get through the stink.
posted by
Trevor_Cunnington
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January 17, 2006
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This makes me sad...
. I learned the hard way that being in a relationship to just be with someone and not be alone is really hard on your psyche. I think being alone sometimes is important for our sanity.
posted by
Trevor_Cunnington
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January 16, 2006
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Society has made it it much more difficult for
a woman to be strong. And even when a woman finally does show strength and obtain power, she's looked down upon, or treated harsly.
posted by
_the_staggering_genius_
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January 16, 2006
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How sad...
It's amazing that people get comfortable being victims...(I hope that didn't sound negative or mean!) Because my prayers are with them.
Very sad, JoJo... ~LB~ xoxoxo
posted by
Anony_Miss
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January 16, 2006
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JoJo
I also agree with the other comments and believe that you can make a difference in the lives you touch.
posted by
BrightIrish
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January 16, 2006
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I Agree with Other Comments and also Feel that Fear Has Set in and Led to
further emotional crippling. With the right help and time it can be reversed!! Good post!
posted by
Sophistie
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January 16, 2006
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Jojo....I know that you will make a difference....
You have your head on right. And I agree with Ariala, about some women and girls feeling like they no longer have control over their lives. This was a well-written post and said quite a lot between the lines. Thanks for sharing.
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
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January 16, 2006
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I'm with Ariala
a perception that you've lost control of your life can mean that you believe you really don't have the energy to do so. Thank goodness there are people like you around to make a difference.
posted by
malcolm
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January 16, 2006
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Jojo,
I imagine if anyone can make a difference in the teenage girls' lives it will be you. You are still young enough to relate to their issues and talk to them in their language. I learned long ago from the Social Worker's program at school that the older the social worker, the harder it is to gain trust with kids now a days. To them you may still seem ancient, but you are single and have no kids right? That makes a difference. These teens see you less like a nagging mother and more like a older sister I would assume. My kids at school seem to relax more when they learn I'm single and childless. Shadow
posted by
Keshet
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January 16, 2006
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Shadow
I truly hope that by playing a role in the lives of the teenagers I can make a difference. Luckily most of my caseload is even younger then that so those girls have a chance because I apparently think I have the ability to inspire them all! 
posted by
jojostar
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January 16, 2006
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Blackcat
It drives me crazy too. Especially when people are given a second chance.
posted by
jojostar
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January 16, 2006
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Ariala
Thanks! Someday I'll figure out how to get through to them and then I can save the world.
posted by
jojostar
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January 16, 2006
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Jojo,
Good post. Unfortunately there are 1,000's of women in the same boat here. Are there answers? Sometimes. But in general these women have spent a life in a harsh environment and reality and don't understand they can pull themselves out because no one has taught them to be independent at a young enough age to benefit their situations now. Shadow
posted by
Keshet
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January 16, 2006
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the victim mentality makes me crazy... it's definitely sad.
posted by
-blackcat
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January 16, 2006
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jojo, it is sad...I think people get to a point where their wills are
broken and they become victims of circumstances. They lose their power to take control of their lives...(so they think)
Good post.
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Ariala
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January 16, 2006
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