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Actually did this in Oct. 2005. Didn't go too, well...
Had enough of the crap at work and turned in my badge and everything else and walked out. It hasn't turned out very good and now I kinda wish I had taken a deeper breath and taken it in the proverbial butt one last time.
But, alas hind sight is 20/20 after all.
posted by
anglofinspirtion
on January 22, 2006 at 5:11 PM
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awareness and choice
I think the important thing is being aware of what you are feeling, and then making a choice of how you want to respond. And that is not always easy. Often there is no space between the stimulus and the response., so we say fuck you and regret it later. I think by paying attention to all the triggers and recognizing that irate voice and letting that connect you to what you really want you can thrive. Though that voice can often reflect wounds from the past, so it is a matter of filtering as you say. And the art is to know when you want to make a powerful statement, and fuck you might be the right thing to say for your own right to thrive. I like your discussion.
posted by
floo
on January 22, 2006 at 10:29 AM
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I think if you are convinced from your inner voice about what u are saying,
whether or not it is socially accepted, go ahead and say it. Only maybe we can be sensitive to say what we do say in a sensitive way so as to convey your message and yet not be rude.
posted by
Straightforward
on January 19, 2006 at 8:18 AM
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realitytherapy
I think it's a sign of maturity.
posted by
Joe_Love
on January 17, 2006 at 7:06 PM
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Jo
I too have had the "privilege" of learning the hard way. I like to think I have learned from those mistakes and try to approach things from a more "flies to honey" perspective these days. It is what I have to be a power of positive words method. I will write more about it in the future.
posted by
realitytherapy
on January 15, 2006 at 7:47 AM
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Com
I hear ya! I find that more often than I would like my filter goes on the fritz.
posted by
realitytherapy
on January 15, 2006 at 7:43 AM
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Reality
it is called managing your emotions and developing worktime skills in order to get what you want. I learned the hard way... so, i'd have to say, say it calmly and with a smile
posted by
joleen
on January 14, 2006 at 8:45 PM
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FILTERING INNER VOICE
Yes, it's true filterin gyou rinner voice is a sign of maturity. Unfortunately it's not a skil I ever learned. NAnd lokig back on all of the jobs, relatinships etc I fucked up because i said waht I wantd to say i don't have ne dam regret. My advice Fuck the filter!!!
posted by
Comedian
on January 14, 2006 at 6:27 PM
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