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Ho Ho Ho,
shave your balls for Christmas? No, I don't think that makes it. This woman's antics might be laughable, but they also could be menacing. Perhaps you are right to consider her a wife's worst nightmare. On the other hand, maybe there's less going on than you imagine.
posted by
Hemlocker
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January 3, 2006
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Perhaps the men in that office
ought to turn the tables and have a little sexual harrassment suit themselves...
posted by
ms_bradrock
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January 2, 2006
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Holy Cow!
How can she get by with that? Of course, men USUALLY don't take as much issue with sexually explicit behavior as women. My husband was threatened with sexual harrassment when he just asked a pregnant lady in his office when her baby was due!
I'd be worried that if you say something to this girl, it might make her zero in on your husband even more. Although, maybe she just doesn't realize it makes you uncomfortable. I guess one never knows until one tries....
posted by
koriani
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January 2, 2006
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I think you should let her superior know...this is out of control.
I would have been fired for that at my old firm, or many other jobs I can think of. It's way out of line. I guess going to her boss behind your husband's back wouldn't be good, but you should tell him to talk to her. Don't listen to mystic, he thinks the worst of everyone. After all, this is a guy who doesn't think making out with another woman is cheating. So... I'm sure hubby didn't tell you to piss you off, he was smart to tell you so you didn't find out some other way. But, this girl is getting out of control. I can't believe she hasn't been reprimanded yet.
posted by
Temple
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January 1, 2006
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Lighten up!
I think your husband is just trying to piss you off by telling you these things. Ignore it!
posted by
fwmystic
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January 1, 2006
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RachelAnna, I know but ask him
is he confident she won't turn into a bunny-boiler?
It seems a shame that someone who should go to so much trouble to improve her appearance would squander it in this way
posted by
Azur
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January 1, 2006
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You're right Ca88andra...
She's the "girl who used to be fat" and has lost weight and had cosmetic surgery to feel better about herself. Unfortunately, that has also led to having inappropriate relations with just about anyone who crosses her path--she just wants attention. Positive attention however she can get it.
Instead of talking to her, I've also thought of just reporting her to her superiors. For some reason, when it's a woman this sort of thing is laughed off and it's okay. Well, I don't think it's okay. It could end up getting all the guys who can't help but listen in trouble, too. And, that would include my husband.
In the end, I'll probably do nothing but keep telling my husband that his relationship with her makes me uncomfortable. And, when/if I see her (which isn't often at all) I'll make sure to let her know I don't appreciate her.
posted by
RachelAnna
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January 1, 2006
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I couldn't agree more, MayB...
Unfortunately, it's not always easy to get one to understand why something from someone they "aren't interested in" bothers you so much.
posted by
RachelAnna
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January 1, 2006
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I wouldn't be bothered calling her. It would only give her the attention she obviously craves. Ignore her. As for your husband, well he is telling you all about it so I don't think you have anything to worry about. He knows you are uncomfortable with the situation and he obviously doesn't feel anything for this woman or he wouldn't tell you everything she does!
posted by
Ca88andra
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January 1, 2006
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Perhaps your husband needs to make it clear to her that is is unappropriate and that
he doesn't appreciate it. Your feelings must take precedence.
posted by
Azur
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January 1, 2006
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You're right MayB...
And her apparent lack of ethics etc., has kept me from talking to her at all. This has been a 6 month or so flirtation, and the only reason I have considered talking to her at all is because now I feel as though she's comfortable just throwing her issues with my husband in my face, sending home gifts like that. I don't think I will make a point to go talk to her, though if I see her I might say something. Luckily, we live in a big city so the liklihood that we'll cross paths without warning is very small. The problem is that she's not the one I'm married to, but I still think someone needs to tell her how wrong she is, if not on a personal level, on a business level.
posted by
RachelAnna
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January 1, 2006
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Do you think it is worth talking to her? She sounds like she doesn't
listen to anything rational. At least your husband tells you about it
when he comes home to
you and at least she didn't single him out for her attention. How did the other guys and partners react?
posted by
Azur
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January 1, 2006
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I've thought about calling her Krisles...
Because I don't think I'd do well in person. I know that it would piss off my husband, too. But, I think someone should put her in her place.
posted by
RachelAnna
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January 1, 2006
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You're right, lensman...
If a man had given a similar gift to a female he would have lost his job and the cops may even pay him a visit. Not when it's a pretty girl with fake boobs and a taste for the swinging lifestyle that shares her tales at work... Er, is that tail or tale? ;)
posted by
RachelAnna
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January 1, 2006
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Heh, yeah Blackcat!
Politically incorrect is right! On both of their parts. I would never even take a gift like that from a man, so I was pissed that he would even accept.
posted by
RachelAnna
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January 1, 2006
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I thought so too, Reni!
I didn't know whether to rip my husbands head off, go kick her ass (though she's bigger than me!), or cry. But I was (and am) pretty pissed off.
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RachelAnna
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January 1, 2006
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RachelAnna
I am in complete agreement.....I'd take her out and have a chat, and let her know that you don't appreciate her putting your husband in an environment where he may have to tell that story in court someday and if she has an ounce of brains, she'll wise up before some other wife isn't nice enough to talk to her about it first.
posted by
Krisles
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January 1, 2006
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I'm trying to imagine a male doing something similar to a married female co-worker (or even single) and how that would be viewed. I guess your reaction is right on.
posted by
Lensman
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January 1, 2006
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Wow. I thought I worked in the most politically incorrect arena... but
that tops just about anything I've seen between "friends." I'd be worried about what kind of signals your husband is sending out where she thinks it's okay to even think about his "peanuts."
posted by
-blackcat
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January 1, 2006
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Make that a Bailey's and coffee, but definitely have that chat!
I'm into off-color humor, but that went waaaaaay over the line.
posted by
Renigade
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January 1, 2006
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