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RachelAnne

Instead of going through possibly years of unproductive, painful psychoanalysis why don't you look into EFT?  Try this and if you have questions, call...Emotional Healing with EFT

 

posted by koriani on January 1, 2006 at 8:45 AM | link to this | reply

Rachel Anna--

As you can see from the comments, if you are "so screwed up", you have plenty of company.  She was not an alcoholic, though she did drink--she liked sweet liquors best-- and chain smoked, but my mother sent double messages that could make the mind of a child reel with confusion.  She was emotionally abusive in the sneakiest ways always designed so that I ended up believing I was at fault.  Anyway, this stuff never goes away, but you can confront it and lead a decent, productive life.  Others who share your experiences, support groups, counseling, even drugs if necessary, all can help,  Take care of yourself.

posted by Hemlocker on December 30, 2005 at 5:22 PM | link to this | reply

Avoid Internalizing

Forgive and let go!  You understand the need to reach out.  Go for it!  Understand that you are a good person and tell yourself all the good skills, etc. that you possess.  I did not have an alcoholic, yet had a parent who was depressed ALL the time.  This can have a very negative impact and requires strength to overcome so that I can not only help myself, also help the parent when attempts are made to pull me into the depression.

Seek help if you need.  I was able to read the bible and memorize scriptures that kept/keep a positive view of myself along with rational thinking.  The best to you and hang in there! Also be careful of the parent who is sending reminders that may keep you in a place, from where you need to move.

posted by Sophistie on December 23, 2005 at 8:13 PM | link to this | reply

I do that, too....and I am that, too...

Many alcholics, but two of them raising me, one beating the hell out of me.  Yep, I get it.  The words you used here about not having anyone to reach out to...I never actually put it together with my vulnerability before, but it makes sense.  It's hard, I still work on it, but you can find ways to do it.  You're strong and smart and brave.  Don't forget that part.  No matter who your parents are or were. 

posted by Temple on December 23, 2005 at 2:32 AM | link to this | reply

Rach,

As a child of an abusive, violent alcoholic...I would love to read that article...I bet if you asked, you would find a lot of us are children of alcoholics...sad isn't it...and you can tell we are survivors who are trying to make the world a better place, right little sister? Love ya...you know that right?

posted by MiaElla on December 22, 2005 at 7:35 AM | link to this | reply

I'm the child of an alcoholic too... It certainly can be scary, but I found it comforting to know there are others out there just like me.

posted by Ca88andra on December 22, 2005 at 1:29 AM | link to this | reply