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Ca88andra
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November 19, 2005
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Ca88,
Oh, good. I'll go over and check it out.
posted by
Blanche.
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November 19, 2005
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Blanche - you're still here! I was just adding another post.
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 19, 2005
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Ca88andra,
That's okay. I do that all the time, pop in and out.
posted by
Blanche.
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November 19, 2005
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Temple - we should try and work something out - let's see if we can sort out a time and day of the week when we are both available...
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 19, 2005
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Blanche - I'm not here, or at least I was and then I left and now I'm back - is that confusing?
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 19, 2005
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I would love to talk to you more often!
But the free long distance within the States is easy....I don't know how we'd do it Internationally. We should just start buying some cards and make phone dates a few times a month or something. They have a lot of minutes on them. We wouldn't talk for five hours each time....lol....then we could talk more often, and we could plan different times we know are good to call and just try to call then.....something like that. Or actually try and plan ahead certain days to talk. That'd be fun. :)
posted by
Temple
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November 19, 2005
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Hi Ca88andra, the time difference must put a different spin on blogging for you. But you're here now, good to see you. I hope you're feeling stronger and clearer.
posted by
Blanche.
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November 19, 2005
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Original - I'm sure it can be done, but then I still believe in Santa and the Easter Bunny!
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 19, 2005
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Maggie - yes, I should shouldn't I!
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 19, 2005
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AlPen - yes, I agree that my adolescent self would be shocked at some of the ideas of my middle aged self. But I guess thats what growing older is all about. Having that cake and eating it... sounds good, but I know I would feel sick afterward *wink*...
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 19, 2005
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Temple, I am happy generally speaking. I guess I just miss some things in life, but like you, I don't know where I would fit them in anyway. Sex would be good though and I should try to make time to go and find some, but time is in short supply - when is it not! It would be good to get to talk to you more often, maybe we should look into that free phone thingy?
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 19, 2005
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Blanche - I do feel better thanks. I guess the time difference means that for me blogit is more like a message board than a chat room, most people are asleep when I get here.
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 19, 2005
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Frankenkitty - the weekend has been good - relaxing, but interesting too. Still looking for that conversation...
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 19, 2005
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Timmy - you did make me smile with your comment! I looked out the front door - but no line up of men!!!
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 19, 2005
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Tapsel - I am feeling better, but alas the good conversation still escapes me... I'm not giving up looking for it though!
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 19, 2005
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Finding a man who not only talks intelligently, but fulfills a woman's
sexual needs...hmmm....is that possible????
posted by
Original_Influence
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November 19, 2005
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Ca88andra, you ought to have it all worked out now. lol
posted by
MaggieMae
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November 19, 2005
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Right with you
If it was all about sex with someone you really can't have a good conversation with well, then, you may as well...oh, let's not get into THAT!
Seriously, though, I've realized that as I've grown older, what's important to me is that I connect with people. My adolescent self would be astounded to hear my middle-aged self admit: there's more to life than sex.
But, on the other hand...if I could have my cake and eat it, too.......
posted by
AlPenwasser
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November 19, 2005
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I know how you feel.
I miss having people around, who live here, to hang out with. I can meet men easy enough, but they just seem to get on my nerves right now. (Hence the getting laid comment below...at least that is taken care of
.) I guess I'm lucky because I have a few friends I can call and talk to, long distance but free, and have good adult conversations pretty regularly...and one or two I talk to almost every day. I would like to meet people here, I have no desire to date (which is, of course, why there are men who want to date me...), but I can see that happening in the near future. The one person, man, I would like to get to know a little better doesn't live here, but he's not serious relationship material, at least not for me, not right now. There always seems to be roadblocks and new decisions to make, but I, like you, haven't been ready to do some of the things I need to. I have other things to focus on. That's probably for the best, because when I was dating, I just was sort of frustrated and irritated because it took up time I didn't have, and I wanted everything/everyone to just cut to the chase. That doesn't work, so, I had some fun, I'll keep the sex and give the boy back. That works for me. I have fun and not get attached, try not to analyze humans so much and if the right guy comes along, great. I would rather make more friends in town right now. I just can't figure out how to make time for it all, especially since time doesn't work the same in my brain. It would be great if we could figure out how to talk more. I hope you find your way to something that makes you happier, Cass. xoxo
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posted by
Temple
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November 19, 2005
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Ca88andra,
I suppose that blogging isn't a total replacement for an understanding friend, a warm, sympathetic man, but I get a lot out of the chat here. Occasionally, there's those "hey, this is not a chat room, people" blogs, but I say it is what it is, and good chat is as necessary as good food, sex, and all the other good things in life. I hope you're feeling better now that you got that off your chest!
posted by
Blanche.
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November 18, 2005
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You know, You are so right.
I have great conversation everyday, but not sex everyday, and that's okay with me. Sex is great, but, conversation helps me collect my thoughts and throw around ideas. Have a fun weekend
posted by
Flumpystalls3000
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November 18, 2005
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Ca88andra
I'm sure that men would be lined up at your door for an opportunity to talk with one as intelligent as you. And even more men would line up to wrap you in their arms and jump your bones!! The moon has been full, let it pass and things will return to normal..........*wonder if I can get a flight out of here*
posted by
TIMMYTALES
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November 18, 2005
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Ca88andra, This is many hours later after you wrote those words. I hope you are feeling better and that you found someone really interesting to converse with today.
posted by
TAPS.
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November 18, 2005
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tb - not only have I missed your blogs, I've also missed your comments! Good to see you again. Unfortunately I only have dial up at the moment. Perhaps after my next move (which should happen sometime soon as I need a bigger place) I will look into broadband.
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 18, 2005
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malcolm - I'll be sure to keep a look out for those treasures!
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 18, 2005
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littlems - I did, it worked!
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 18, 2005
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Nancy - lol! Amazing how a little pressure can make words flee the brain...
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 18, 2005
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Layla - thank you!
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 18, 2005
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Merry - big brains and big vocabularies are good things... as is coffee!
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 18, 2005
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Quirky - you know you can be interesting and witty at the drop of a hat!
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 18, 2005
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jojo - I got over it last night - too much to do today to pity myself! lol
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 18, 2005
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Temple - I'm working on it... xoxo
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 18, 2005
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Silver - syncing cycles on blogit! Now that would be a worry! Imagine all the virtual hormones running around... lol!
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 18, 2005
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muser - that did brighten my day - thank you! As soon as I get a chance I will have a look at the website.
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 18, 2005
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I have no pity for you ca88
All I can say is that in all this time I've read your blogs -- and I've missed you, too, btw -- you have always inspired me to keep going no matter what the circumstances because you're a confident person with a positive outlook on life. You are perfectly entitled to rant and vent and let out some "self-pity." Some other answers:
1) You have to have something to talk about after the sex, if you want a relationship to last. Relationships based on sex can be great, but only to a point. Of course, as an overworked parent of two little ones, I get lots more conversation than sex.
2) If you have a broadband internet connection at home, or even DSL, see if you can get a broadband phone service! We just signed up for one that's costing us less than 20 bucks a month and includes long distance and reduced international rates.
Thanks for noticing my return.
posted by
tbgroucho
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November 18, 2005
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I'm sure
it's the fault of that moon again! Waves of self-pity will sometimes fall on your lonely beach but when the tide goes out, as it surely will, what treasures will it leave behind, just waiting to be found!
posted by
malcolm
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November 18, 2005
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vent vent vent! it's great for the soul!
posted by
littlemspickles
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November 18, 2005
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I'm stumped. The pressure appears to have caused a brain fuse to blow. I'm unable to think of anything intelligent to write. Egad, I must stop typing now!
posted by
Nancy-R-H
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November 18, 2005
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It's okay to have a pity-party from time to time!
We're only human, afterall!!! :-) ~LB~ xo
posted by
Anony_Miss
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November 18, 2005
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God... sorry ca88... was reading Quirky's comment before leaving mine....
clearly I need more coffee!!! lol!
posted by
MerryAnne
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November 18, 2005
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Quirky... I love a man with a big....
brain and a big vocabulary lol
posted by
MerryAnne
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November 18, 2005
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OMG--how can you put such pressure on me, asking me to be interesting or witty on demand!! LOL. I feel certain I will fail, so I shant even try.
posted by
Julia.
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November 18, 2005
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Ca88andra
I was so having a day like that yesterday, and the day before and well, ok, it's just been a self pity week for me. I think I'm finally over it.
posted by
jojostar
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November 18, 2005
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posted by
Temple
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November 18, 2005
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I'm too tired to properly comment, so I'll just say this...
Getting laid helps.
posted by
Temple
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November 18, 2005
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It must be the moon. I've got the blah-blues, too. Or maybe it's something within the Blogit community akin to a bunch of women living together and synching their cycles. whatever it is, hope something comes about to help you through. That wasn't very well articulated, or particularly adult, but the sentiment is genuine. Hugs to you, Ca88andra.
posted by
SilverMoon7
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November 18, 2005
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O.K., Ca88andra...hope this at least gets a giggle...it's the best I could
...I haven't had coffee yet!
Ca88andra was singin' the blues
She'd reached the end of her fuse
Because she was feeling so shi_ _y
She threw herself a party of pity
Better that than booze and tatoos!
No,darlin', you don't need any advice right now, you just needed to vent! A pity party for one is something I allow myself as needed. I put a limit on the length of the party before it gets underway, and then I just wallow in it...end of party!
Now ...I might just have something that will brighten your day...uh...evening. www.skype.com is free telephone...with skype you can talk to anyone anywhere in the world IF you each have Windows 2000 or XP as your OS. You will also need a headset...Go to the website and read about it...much better explanation than I am presently giving! Another similar option is www.gizmoproject.com. I like gizmo because payment is easier, and in U.S. dollars. This is the BEST thing to come along since sliced bread! I can't help you with the companion issue, but skype or gizmo could make long,interesting, and FREE international conversations possible!! Max talks to a friend in the U.K.for hours from here in Cayman FREE! and...You could talk to Blogging Buddies! Now ,if your PC meets the requirements for skype/gizmo and your have a friend whose pc does not, or he has no pc, you can use "skypeout" or "callout" to call their landline from your pc for VERY low rates...usually under two cents per minute! Have my fingers crossed for you!
posted by
muser
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November 18, 2005
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May - perhaps its the moon? or some other planetary position influencing these feelings? Maybe there is something in the atmosphere hanging over Australia at the moment that is affecting the way we feel?
posted by
Ca88andra
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November 18, 2005
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I think you and me are having one of those days where we need to let this stuff go - no use keeping such thoughts locked up inside
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Azur
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November 18, 2005
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