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Talion, you make a valid point!
There are some single parents out there doing a bang up of a job, going to bat for their kids and really being faithful in caring for them and doing the best for them they possibly can.
Kudos to all the single parents in this world who are doing their absolute best to raise well adjusted, happy kids!
posted by
JanesOpinion
on October 31, 2005 at 6:14 PM
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With the staggering divorce rate, even if a child is born in a two parent household, there's a good chance that they won't remain in one until adulthood. There's no doubt that a child needs to be raised in a stable, nurturing environment and I agree the odds are typically against a single parent household providing it, but a two parent one doesn't guarantee it either. I believe as long as the proper environment to raise a child exists, exactly who provides this stability is less important.
posted by
Talion
on October 31, 2005 at 8:27 AM
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JanesOpinion
That is so true. Particularly the Church, amen.
posted by
Justi
on October 31, 2005 at 7:57 AM
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I agree with you, Justsouno,
It's hard enough to be raising kids within the family unit, let alone as a single mom. Whether the pregnancy happens by rape, or the result of a fling or two, or the result of a quasi committed relationship - without the binding agreement of marriage either one could walk out if the going got too rough. That doesn't make for a stable household. Many would say that they know of friends who are not married who are committed to each other and their kids . . . . but the data doesn't, in general, support that.
As well, the Church needs to be committed to helping these single moms and their kids. Changing the oil on cars, bringing meals, befriending the Mom, babysitting for her so she can get away for awhile; there are so many practical ways to demonstrate the love of God!
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JanesOpinion
on October 30, 2005 at 6:25 PM
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We should make it our business to make a serious effort to help these people before they get into that situation was my whole point. One parent cannot do it all. You do not have enough to give children. People say if both parents would do as they should it could be fine-even if they never married or were divorced. My opinion of that is if both parents would have done what they should have there would have been a marriage and no divorce. A young woman in her twenties trying to raise children, work-make ends meet, have time for them and not have so much stress quality child care is impossible. I seriously believe teaching abstinence should be encouraged from all the areas of their lives, parents, school, (church if there is one) just people in general having a respect for other humans having some quality of life. This is a place where outreaches could help tremendously. If these women were helped, helped to see how they could change what they have and their futures and they could encourage those coming along behind the. These kinds of post need to be aired often, many don't know how hard it is out there.
posted by
Justi
on October 30, 2005 at 5:39 PM
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Why would I NOT do that, mystic?
Well, for one thing, I'm not into legalism. More laws are not going to help one bit. What this information tells me is that there are more and more people out there - women with kids in particular - who are struggling to make do, struggling to survive. And that concerns me.
As far as I'm concerned, there is no room for sarcasm here.
posted by
JanesOpinion
on October 30, 2005 at 5:04 AM
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Why not make it a law that they have to marry?
If you are so worried about the moral fabric of society, make it required for men who knock up women to get married, make it illegal to get a divorce, and might as well try to outlaw alcohol while you're at it.
posted by
fwmystic
on October 29, 2005 at 9:34 PM
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Justsouno,
what a novel idea you advocate. Does anyone do this anymore? Marriage first? How clever you are.
(tongue in cheek, of course!)
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JanesOpinion
on October 29, 2005 at 7:15 PM
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This is no surprise. The schools and churches who have tried to have celibacy an important issue until after marriage have been met with vulgar displays of interference by the ACLU. Has anyone thought about saying no? Has anyone thought of getting the right of order into their lives. You do not take meds then get sick~~you are ill so you take meds! It is the horse then comes the cart. Marriage between one man and one woman then baby makes three. Simple math~~Simple decency! Marry~~then sex~~then pregnancy!
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Justi
on October 29, 2005 at 6:22 PM
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