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Joe, enjoy the 30s and then look forward to the 40s! I have to admit 39 was the worst year of the last 10 years and 40 the best.
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Ca88andra
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October 7, 2005
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Ca88andra
What-if, what-if. . , isn't that the truth!!! I'm approaching those 40's, and I always find it interesting each new phase in life that the maturing process beholds for the unexpectant. *grin*
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Joe_Love
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October 7, 2005
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Pat, I wonder how much employers look at educational achievements nowadays? If I wanted to I could apply to do my Masters, but I just don't think it would get me much further than I am now.
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Ca88andra
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September 30, 2005
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Usual - thank you! I don't find it difficult to rebel against the norm though, its sort of inbuilt in me!
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Ca88andra
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September 30, 2005
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Symphony - I guess we all still have time to change our plans and do other things. I always remember that Colonel Sanders only made his fortune when he was 78!
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Ca88andra
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September 30, 2005
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jacenta, how dreadful about your furnace! I hate being cold. Hope you get it fixed quickly.
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Ca88andra
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September 30, 2005
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Actually, and others may have said this,
college is where you go to get certified -- that diploma is proof to a potential employer that you can learn and follow the rules, produce the desired responses, and succeed in a system. Education is what you get from your family, from travel, from paying attention to what's going on around you, and by trial and error. Even if you're fifty when you get your certificate, it will boost your income so that you can better afford your education...
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Pat_B
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September 30, 2005
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Yawn....
A perfectly laid plan that is also perfectly boring. You're right... the path you chose is better and imho, much more character-building. Kudos for going your own way!
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UsualSuspect
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September 30, 2005
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I am always thinking about what I would or could be doing now...:)
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_Symphony_
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September 30, 2005
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Ca88andra
I imagine we all wonder what life for us would have been if we had made different decisions and followed different paths. It seems to be one of our human traits, don't you think? I often wonder how it would be to have been blessed with more talent, but at this stage in the game, I am thankful that I have all the wonderful blessings I have. I only wish our furnace worked this early morning, it won't light and it is only 45 degrees outside and cold in here.
Guess, I'll have to call the gas company repair. 
Have a wonderful day!
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jacenta
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September 30, 2005
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Queen - that's another thing I often wonder - how much separating from my ex husband effected my boys, where I would be if I didn't marry him in the first place... ooops thats two things!
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Ca88andra
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September 30, 2005
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katray - and a good thought at that!
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Ca88andra
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September 30, 2005
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Thank you kingmi - I did!
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Ca88andra
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September 30, 2005
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Awww shucks Spitfire :-) thank you! BTW, being an Aries myself I think we make great lawyers - we love arguing...
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Ca88andra
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September 30, 2005
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Amateur, Yes I think we all look longingly at the grass on the other side, until we get there...
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Ca88andra
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September 30, 2005
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Quirky, I guess that's true, but I still do wonder sometimes...
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Ca88andra
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September 30, 2005
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ODD
That I woke this morning to wondering what life would be like for my 30 year old daughter had I not divorced her father way back when? I was musing over the infinite possibilities of just one action taken or not that changes the whole of a person's life. Thanks for sharing, enjoyed reading this post. And yes, I think we all wonder.
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ALWAYSALOVER
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September 29, 2005
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Perhaps looking at it as expanding his possibilities
instead of accepting defeat is the key Ca88andra. Just a thought.
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katray4
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September 29, 2005
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Ca888i, Thanks for the nice comment! Have a great day!
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kingmi
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September 29, 2005
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Cass,
I must agree. My p's have been pounding into my head about going to law school and becoming a trial attorney. Dman, I'm 35 and they STILL mention it! 
I think we are just meant to be what we are destined to be, regardless if it fits the perfect "other thing." Nothing to be ashamed of. I think you have (are) raising a great family and no matter what you may think you "could have been" and no matter what anyone else tells you, YOU ARE living up to your greatest purposes in this life.
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September 29, 2005
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Ca88, I think everyone of us wonders. The grass always seem greener on the other side, doesn't it?
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Amateur
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September 29, 2005
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ca88--
we can't (and shouldn't ever) second guess our decisions...they were made with what knowledge we had at the time and with what we felt was right at the time. Hindsight may make them look differently, but that's only natural.
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Julia.
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September 28, 2005
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genius, on the one hand I agree, but on the other I don't want to have to scrimp and save all my life just to be able to live.
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Ca88andra
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September 28, 2005
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katray - funny you should say that. I've often been told that I should be redirecting my eldest to some practical career just in case he doesn't make it into basketball. However, with an attitude of failure, isn't he guaranteed to fail?
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Ca88andra
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September 28, 2005
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Mia - if you judge success by the enjoyment you have had out of life, then I've done very well for myself. However, if you judge success by financial security, I've failed.
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Ca88andra
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September 28, 2005
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malcolm - interesting comment. I will have to remember that one when my boys ask for my advice, although I think its far easier for me to come up with advice rather than sit back and say nothing.
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Ca88andra
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September 28, 2005
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wordsmith - I pay everything for my eldest son and I'm supposed to pay maintenance to my ex husband for the other two. Instead I buy them clothes and pay for medical expenses, school excursions, etc. Now he wants me to pay for their school fees and he's telling them unless I do he will take them out of that school. C'est la vie.
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Ca88andra
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September 28, 2005
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Temple - its sad you never had encouragement from your parents. At least mine did encourage me when I was doing something they wanted me to! I make it a point to encourage my boys whenever I think of it.
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Ca88andra
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September 28, 2005
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Midnight I guess many of us can relate - is that a shame or not?
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Ca88andra
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September 28, 2005
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Hammock - lol! That made me think of a silly rhyme - "I eat my peas with honey, have done so all my life. It makes the peas taste funny, but it keeps them on the knife!"
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Ca88andra
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September 28, 2005
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May - that can be a problem too!
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Ca88andra
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September 28, 2005
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Doesn't matter
I have come to the conlusion that it doesn't really matter where you are on the social/salary ladder. And you shouldn't judge people based on either of those things. What does matter is what value people have put on things they've done. I know people who went to school for economics, worked on Wall Street, had the money and the status, hated it, and quit to play in a rock band where he makes nothing. All that matters is that a person does what they value in life.
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_the_staggering_genius_
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September 28, 2005
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Interesting and enjoyable reflections Ca88andra
My father encouraged and believed in my dreams, but he wanted me to have a "practical" career to fall back on too. Good plan, but life has a way of redirecting.
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September 28, 2005
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Ca88andra
Haha...I love your sense of humor. And it sounds like you did pretty good for yourself.
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MiaElla
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September 28, 2005
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Very interesting
thoughts. My parents just wanted me to be in a position to be able to to have a choice over what I did with my life. They encouraged my education and were the security I needed. They were always there and still are. The only problem I have with this is that they didn't say anything. More of a laissez faire approach with the best intentions. I'd have liked to read English or History but read Economics, with an eye on what I 'might do with it.' It's worked and everything is fine but I do think we should go to college to study subjects we're really, really interested in; we'll do better and who cares or looks at subjects on CVs?
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malcolm
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September 28, 2005
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Hmmm....
I wasn't encouraged to do anything other than be able to take care of myself. You have the sole financial responsibility of taking care of your son's education?
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word.smith
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September 28, 2005
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I have no idea what my parents wanted for me.
They never encouraged, nor discouraged, anything in my life except to get out of their hair. Along the way it was only about making money so I would not ask them for anything and never about happiness, health, or love. I will take my road over any they would have chosen for me also. It takes a strong person to take their own road.
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Temple
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September 28, 2005
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Cass,
I can relate! Good post!!!!!!!
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Jaxson-Pete
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September 28, 2005
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Life is a continuous fork in the road. Manytimes, I prefer a spoon.
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September 28, 2005
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There are many lives I could have led but at the time I did not see them.
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Azur
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September 28, 2005
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