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Kodac, having to earn a living does
wonder to keep our mouths in line.
posted by
word.smith
on August 28, 2005 at 11:15 AM
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Pat, I need to keep that in mind.
Most times I am so taken aback at the rude questions that are asked that I tend to flounder as as not to say what comes immediately to mind. Thanks for reading.
posted by
word.smith
on August 28, 2005 at 11:14 AM
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Thoughts better left unspoken...
Working in retail gives me loads of opportunities to have nasty thoughts running rampant though my brain. I find it remarkably hard to bite my tongue and not spew out everything I'm thinking..........good thing that I dont or I wouldnt have a job....
posted by
KODACHROME1970
on August 28, 2005 at 8:05 AM
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The best answer to a nosy question
is another question. "Why do you ask?" or, if they're particularly rude and insensitive, "What could possibly make you think this is any concern of yours?"
posted by
Pat_B
on August 28, 2005 at 7:06 AM
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Thank you Joe,
You got that right. I would have throttled her if I could have - rude so and so that she is. Now I'm wondering what she'd say if I'd told her to mind her own business. But then, the habits of a lifetime are so hard to break. I was brought up not to be rude to my elders and I have to be pushed very far to do so. I think people like her capitalize on this aspect of our culture.
posted by
word.smith
on August 27, 2005 at 2:01 PM
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TIMMY, yes, I find that to be so particularly with older ladies.
Nothing will stand in their way - except maybe expletives and even then, I wonder....
posted by
word.smith
on August 27, 2005 at 1:58 PM
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Blackcat, now those eyes were wandering far.
Under your deck! and no offer to at least pay you for what you must have bought. Some people do have some nerve.
posted by
word.smith
on August 27, 2005 at 1:57 PM
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Cass, that can and does happen when
you're not paying attention. You too far in by the time you realize how out of depth you've gotten. 
posted by
word.smith
on August 27, 2005 at 1:55 PM
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Word.smith
Really enjoyed your last 2 posts. Both have been very entertaining reads. I know you wanted to strangle that woman when she kept inquiring about your new wig. LOL And, just as Timmy commented. . , being rude to these people doesn't work at all. It DOES go right over their heads.
posted by
Joe_Love
on August 27, 2005 at 12:08 PM
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word
I have found that being rude to these types of people usually goes right over their head
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on August 27, 2005 at 10:56 AM
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There's nothing worse than a nosey neighbor.
A couple weeks ago, mine asked me, "Hey, are you going to use that slate you have piled up under your deck? If not, I'll take it?" ??? Are you kidding me? I have about 10 pieces of patio slate under my deck that was leftover when I fixed the walkway. The nerve of some people never ceases to amaze me.
posted by
-blackcat
on August 27, 2005 at 8:38 AM
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I'm sort of naive when it comes to these inquisitive people. I tend to answer them without thinking, then they ask more, I answer more and suddenly I realise I've been pulled into a conversation I never wanted!
posted by
Ca88andra
on August 27, 2005 at 12:51 AM
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Bright.
Life throws us all types, I guess!
posted by
word.smith
on August 26, 2005 at 7:35 PM
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HG, Inquisitiveness might not be such a bad thing...
in small doses. It's seeking out knowledge eagerly, but then the second definition is prying. Oops!
posted by
word.smith
on August 26, 2005 at 7:33 PM
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word.smith
I can remember being taken totally off-gaurd ( nothing new for me) I said something like > I still buy my make-up at the drug store but I suppose I will have to attend one of those parties sometime down the road. Your neigbor is JUST RUDE also.. Maybe Jealous.
posted by
BrightIrish
on August 26, 2005 at 4:47 PM
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There's inquisitive, and then there's just plain nosy....
posted by
Holy_Grail
on August 26, 2005 at 4:08 PM
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Medusa, that is true enough..
no class...totally clueless!
posted by
word.smith
on August 26, 2005 at 2:13 PM
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Definitely Quirky!
I wouldn't ask anyone that, not to mention from across the street. If you choose to tell me, then that's another thing, but to ask.....not cool! 
posted by
word.smith
on August 26, 2005 at 2:12 PM
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Bright, I would have sent her back
down the driveway with a withering look, no matter how badly it made me feel...D'you remember what you said?
posted by
word.smith
on August 26, 2005 at 2:10 PM
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Hi Ms. word.smith...I agree with Ms. Quirky...It's conversation to them...
How freakin' rude can some people be?! Is that a wig? Oh, for goodness sakes. You gave her a sharp answer. I think some people simply lack class.
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
on August 26, 2005 at 1:44 PM
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I don't think most of them see it that way...they probably think they are just making conversation...but asking about the wig---that was rude!!
posted by
Julia.
on August 26, 2005 at 1:04 PM
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word.smith
Hi.... I had one of those neighbors.. She knocked on my door one day and I swear these were her words... " I was wondering since your getting older and have a few wrinkles, would you attend a make-up party.. if I decide to have it?"
posted by
BrightIrish
on August 26, 2005 at 12:17 PM
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Same here, Kat.
posted by
word.smith
on August 26, 2005 at 10:10 AM
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Strat, inevitably I feel bad when I insult people.
no matter how much they deserve it. Gotta come get some lessons from ya.
posted by
word.smith
on August 26, 2005 at 10:09 AM
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Taps, thankfully we don't have to answer everything that's
asked of us. I have a deep aversion to being questioned. I'm a very private person and find it offensive that people ask some of the questions they do and yeah answering with a question does stop all but the most determined interrogators.
posted by
word.smith
on August 26, 2005 at 10:08 AM
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Yes, more often than not, people who probe thoughtlessly
are rude. Ask me anything, in an unintrusive, considered manner and I will respond; may not answer your question but I won't be annoyed. I always avoid/ ignore the demanding, in your face types though.
posted by
Katray2
on August 26, 2005 at 9:01 AM
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I have found over the years that I have a tendency to glibness.
Someone asks me a dumb question or says something that irks me, and the old sarcastic overdrive cranks up. It's not really helpful to the situation, but damn, it sometimes makes me feel real good.
I'm evil. So sue me...
posted by
strat
on August 26, 2005 at 8:58 AM
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word.smith, this kind of person surely does rub me the wrong way. When I was younger I felt that I had to answer every question that was asked of me but I hated it. I finally realized that the problem was theirs and I began to answer the questions with questions, such as, "Now why on earth would you want to know that?" Although some people are so far gone with it that doesn't even faze them. I especially hated it when gossips would ask me personal questions about joint acquaintences.
posted by
TAPS.
on August 26, 2005 at 8:48 AM
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Ditto, everything you just said Ginnie.
posted by
word.smith
on August 26, 2005 at 8:37 AM
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It's not me..no..
..at least I hope it isn't! i'm shy by nature and it amazes me the dumb things people say...almost to hear themselves speak! It's like they feel it's their place in life to flap their gums constantly....I go out of my way to avoid people like that...or I'll just give them a "hmmm.."
posted by
ginnieb
on August 26, 2005 at 7:59 AM
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