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I Helped Cindy Get Through This Kind of Grief...
...it is the complete and total loss of one's world. Hell, one's universe. Catastrophic. Devastating.
For your friend, continuing to reach out to her lost loved ones across the void is to be encouraged. Allow her the space to believe whatever she needs to to get through this very personal and deeply troubling time and validate her efforts as much as possible. It will help to alleviate the traumatic level of stress she is undergoing.
Calcium gets literally sucked out of the bones (and teeth!) by this kind of stress.
Keep her talking about her plans for each day. Offer to hang around EVEN IF she claims to just want to be alone. If she starts talking suicide or something equally nihilistic, recommend grief groups for parents who have suffered the loss of a child and/or significant other. As a last resort, medication may be necessary if she attempts suicide or becomes pathologically self destructive.
Eventually, meaning will emerge and engage her imagination quite naturally. The most dangerous part of the storm is passed, but still much work is to be done.
posted by
Volaar
on August 20, 2005 at 7:32 PM
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This is horrible
I will keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers
posted by
Bel_
on August 14, 2005 at 3:17 PM
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Goldie
I am sorry to read this about your friend luv. I'll add her in my prayers my friend.
posted by
WileyJohn
on August 14, 2005 at 6:15 AM
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