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I understand you feeling that way, but

I understand you feeling that way, but I know in my heart that you didn't cause his death just as I think you know it in your heart too.  I am sure your brother wouldn't want you to beat yourself up about it, but remember the good things and the times that the two of you had together.

Was your brother married, and did he have kids?  Maybe you could write a blog about them or two.


posted by Damond on August 2, 2007 at 2:08 PM | link to this | reply

I hope you don't beat yourself up too much thinking that way.  It was nothing but a terrible coincidence.  I found out that not long before my friend Gail was murdered two weeks ago, she had told a friend of ours "No one would even know if something happened to me..."  They made a pact then to check up on each other regularly.  I'm sure she didn't cause her own her death, just as you were not responsible for your brother's.  I believe perhaps you both had premonitions you were not aware of at the time.     

posted by Holy_Grail on August 9, 2005 at 6:51 PM | link to this | reply

Mia, I intend to real all of this blog, back to the beginning.  I lost my kid brother to suicide on Christmas Eve, 1982.  He took a gun a blew his brains out...he was 23.  Would have been 24 the following May.  My brother was very depressed the last six months of his life, and I feel guilty that I was too busy and caught in my own "stuff" that I didn't take more time to try to reach him.  But, I cannot take the responsibility for his death.  I used to think I could make myself feel better, in a warped way, by blaming myself, in part, for his death.  It didn't work, and he wouldn't have wanted it that way.  The same as I think your brother would want you to be strong, and remember how much he loved you.  Darn it all, you've made me cry......for you, and for me.


posted by Mama.Dragonfly on August 9, 2005 at 2:20 PM | link to this | reply

My sweet Mia,

No, Honey....You DID NOT cause your brother's death by speaking of it.  I spoke of my Grandpa's death many times, but only God can decide when He is ready for us to join Him in His kingdom. 

There is nothing wrong with asking for your brother's things.  He knows you didn't want him dead.  So long as he lives in your heart and memory, death can NEVER steal him away from you.

Have peace....

posted by lovelyladymonk on August 9, 2005 at 11:19 AM | link to this | reply

i think if it was meant to be it was meant to be. xxxx

posted by mcbreeze on August 9, 2005 at 11:17 AM | link to this | reply

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