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katray, I felt like collapsing from the sneezing, but I didn't have time!
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Ca88andra
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August 11, 2005
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That must have been difficult and emotionally draining Ca88andra
but you accomplished the task efficently and well from the sound of it. I would have been sneezing and wheezing to the point of collapse probably.
posted by
katray4
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August 10, 2005
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Usual, thank you. Writing does help a lot.
posted by
Ca88andra
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August 9, 2005
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Just - this is definitely one time I wish I wasn't an only child, because it would be nice to have had someone to help me. But that's just the way it goes...
posted by
Ca88andra
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August 9, 2005
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Joe, thank you for your lovely comment... again.
posted by
Ca88andra
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August 9, 2005
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Moondawg, it is a very comforting thing to know that my friends in Blogitville are out there thinking of me. I'm very grateful.
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Ca88andra
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August 9, 2005
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Frankenkitty, I had to laugh at your tissue box story! Thank you.
posted by
Ca88andra
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August 9, 2005
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Vibrance, your mom too? Maybe there are many tissue queens out there.
posted by
Ca88andra
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August 9, 2005
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butterflygal, thank you for your comment and your rays of light...
posted by
Ca88andra
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August 9, 2005
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lovelylady, thank you for your thoughts and prayers.
posted by
Ca88andra
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August 9, 2005
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dejtemper - I smiled that your mother did the tissue thing too. Its nice to know mine wasnt the only one.
posted by
Ca88andra
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August 9, 2005
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Rachel yes, the dust was incredible and I didn't even get half the room cleared out. It did help me though, gave me something to do.
posted by
Ca88andra
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August 9, 2005
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littlems, it helps me to write about it. Thank you for reading.
posted by
Ca88andra
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August 9, 2005
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Just keep writing....
tell us every little thing and grieve as much as you need to. That's what we're all here for...to work through whatever it is that keeps us writing like we do.
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UsualSuspect
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August 8, 2005
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This is a difficult task if you are alone in it. Thank you for sharing this
I know as difficult as it was the good memories revisited are always good.
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Justi
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August 8, 2005
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Thank you for sharing your story, Cassie
What a truly wonderful piece of personal journal this is!!
posted by
Joe_Love
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August 8, 2005
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I hope the by sharing this
with the rest of us it helps you to realize that you are not alone, many here in Blogitville are there with you in our thoughts and wishes for you.
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Moondawg
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August 8, 2005
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My husband calls my tissues my
lovers. He gave them that name because I used to put a box of them between us in bed so they wouldn't fall onto the floor. He said it had to stop, the lovers were coming between us. I know your dad appreciates what you're doing so much. Best wishes to you and your family Ca88andra
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Flumpystalls3000
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August 8, 2005
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oh babe, my mom
too is the Tissue Queen. YOu made me cry. Much love from me to you, Vib
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Vibrance
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August 8, 2005
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butterfly gal flying by
What courage you have . Thank you for sharing your vulnerability with me which proves that our hardest trials are filled with light. Your writing is visually descriptive and sets a mood in my head about what it must feel like to lose a loved one. I send you rays of light and thank you for your bravery.
posted by
butterflygal
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August 8, 2005
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Cass,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your father. God bless...
posted by
lovelyladymonk
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August 8, 2005
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Ca88andra -
My mom did the tissue thing too. I smiled when I read that. My mom died in 1999, and I recall the things you are doing now, vividly. My thoughts are with you, thank you for the posts.
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dejtemper
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August 8, 2005
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Yech...
All the dust, I can't imagine. But, I'm sure boxing everything up was a good thing to push you foward every so gently in the grieving process.
posted by
RachelAnna
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August 8, 2005
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Ca88andra....
thank you for sharing this with us....
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littlemspickles
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August 8, 2005
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May, it was cathartic and I hope it helped my father. I don't think I'm looking forward to doing the rest of the house though.
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Ca88andra
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August 8, 2005
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Temple, it was a massive task and in the end only half of her room got done. I didn't have time to attempt my old room or any other bits of the house and yes, there was dust everywhere! My mother's family come from Russia, I can't remember if I've mentioned it before or not.
posted by
Ca88andra
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August 8, 2005
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Ca88andra, that sounds like a very cathartic thing to do. I think you must have really helped your father. take care
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Azur
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August 8, 2005
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I keep putting myself in your place...
it sounds so impossible....outside of the dust, I'd be a mess (asthma, too)....but I get attached to things....I didn't know your Mom spoke Russian. Did you tell me that? There are so many details in that time, it's nice to find warm memories, too. Hope you're feeling better.
posted by
Temple
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August 8, 2005
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muser, the good thing is that memories will last forever. I found myself remembering things I thought I had forgotten.
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Ca88andra
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August 8, 2005
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offbeat, yes I'm feeling better. My dad really wanted as much sorted as possible before I left, so that's what I did!
posted by
Ca88andra
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August 8, 2005
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Yes, how diffficult to sort through so many things with so many memories
attached. I have been writing about this subjsct for three years and I can't finish it... I can empathize with you on this!
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muser
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August 7, 2005
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Cass
That had to be difficult for you. It would never be easy, but for you Dads sake, it is probably better you took care of such matters..hope your doing better!
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Offy
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August 7, 2005
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Quirky the task certainly did bring back memories, but I didn't get overly emotional about it. The difficulty was in the limited time I had to do everything.
posted by
Ca88andra
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August 7, 2005
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Ca88--going through her things must be incredibly emotional, and bringing back so many memories. I imagine it's difficult but at the same time, somewhat comforting?
posted by
Julia.
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August 7, 2005
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Vane, amazing is one way to describe it! I found it a good way of dealing with her death, the memories helped me.
posted by
Ca88andra
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August 7, 2005
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what an amazing experience for you. What a great way to spend time remembering her life.
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Vanidad
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August 7, 2005
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wordsmith- I actually ended up quite sick from the dust and my allergy to the dog. More about that later.
posted by
Ca88andra
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August 7, 2005
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Although painful,
it does help to think that her things will benefit other people. Going through all that dust would also give me sneezing fits, not to mention a strong hello from my asthma.
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word.smith
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August 7, 2005
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