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Frankenkitty - I do let my emotions out, just not so much in public. Thank you.

posted by Ca88andra on August 9, 2005 at 4:03 AM | link to this | reply

Maerdi, thank you for your thoughts.

posted by Ca88andra on August 9, 2005 at 4:03 AM | link to this | reply

It is so sad, but you

are handling things very well.  If you don't let your emotions out you will get physically ill.  It's okay to be sad and cry. Take care of yourself

posted by Flumpystalls3000 on August 8, 2005 at 4:01 PM | link to this | reply

I sympathize with you and your father who is going to be left alone.

posted by Maerdi on July 31, 2005 at 5:52 AM | link to this | reply

Passionflower, thank you for your thoughts. I guess we can never really be prepared.

posted by Ca88andra on July 30, 2005 at 11:39 PM | link to this | reply

betty - what a sad story about your mother. My sympathies are with you. It is true, the time we spend with our loved ones is precious.

posted by Ca88andra on July 30, 2005 at 11:38 PM | link to this | reply

Hemlocker, thank you and thank your wife too. It is true, logistics tend to get in the way of life.

posted by Ca88andra on July 30, 2005 at 11:37 PM | link to this | reply

Joe, thank you for your sympathies. I am grateful that I saw her.

posted by Ca88andra on July 30, 2005 at 11:35 PM | link to this | reply

Just - she really does need the rest. Thank you for your thoughts.

posted by Ca88andra on July 30, 2005 at 11:34 PM | link to this | reply

So sorry to hear about this....I recall when my mother passed on.

I knew well in advance and yet it really hit me hard. You can never prepare enough. It's okay to cry and grieve for a while though. Condolences to your family.

posted by Passionflower on July 30, 2005 at 6:22 PM | link to this | reply

It's good you had a chance to see her.

My mom died when she was only 40 from an aneyurism.

I was lucky enough to fly from Denver (where I lived at the time) home to New Orleans to see her in the hospital.  She was one of the lucky ones to not die on the spot.  They were going to perform surgery on her.  The risks were high, but many patients live and do well after the surgery.  She was not to be one of them.

I am thankful to have visited her.  She knew it was me and asked me to tuck her in as she'd always done for me when I was little.  I kissed her and took a plane back to Denver.  At that time the doctors said it could be days before she'd wake up from the surgery (if at all).  I got the call the next day that she had died, so I took another plane back to New Orleans for her funeral.  Her death had a huge impact on my outlook on life.

We can only be glad for the time we get to be with our loved ones.

posted by bettyboop1967 on July 30, 2005 at 2:49 PM | link to this | reply

Ca88andra

What a shame that during times like this we are not able to just mourn and deal with the end of a loved one, without having to run around and arrange all kinds of logistical stuff. I've been in this boat too. My heart is with you. My wife also has read your posts, and feels an affinity with you. Be well! Hemlocker

posted by Hemlocker on July 30, 2005 at 10:37 AM | link to this | reply

Cassie

my sympothies to you and your family during this time.

I'm sure you were prepared and took the news so calmly because her condition has been a slow one. You should be very thankful for having the opportunity to see her a few weeks ago.

posted by Joe_Love on July 30, 2005 at 8:45 AM | link to this | reply

Be blessed dear one she needs the rest. I shall keep you in my prayers.

posted by Justi on July 30, 2005 at 4:05 AM | link to this | reply

allicat thank you.

posted by Ca88andra on July 29, 2005 at 11:25 PM | link to this | reply

tigerprincess thank you.

posted by Ca88andra on July 29, 2005 at 11:24 PM | link to this | reply

iSiS, thank you for your thoughts. Distance is such a nuisance really, but I will have to get there somehow.

posted by Ca88andra on July 29, 2005 at 11:23 PM | link to this | reply

ginnie. Thank you. Memories are good and they sustain me.

posted by Ca88andra on July 29, 2005 at 11:22 PM | link to this | reply

gypsy - that's what I hope too. Thank you.

posted by Ca88andra on July 29, 2005 at 11:21 PM | link to this | reply

Merry, thank you. It all seems a bit surreal at the moment.

posted by Ca88andra on July 29, 2005 at 11:20 PM | link to this | reply

May, I guess crying can be a help at these times.

posted by Ca88andra on July 29, 2005 at 11:19 PM | link to this | reply

Temple, thank you. Just knowing you are there is a comfort.

posted by Ca88andra on July 29, 2005 at 11:16 PM | link to this | reply

muser - thank you. I do have some good memories.

posted by Ca88andra on July 29, 2005 at 11:16 PM | link to this | reply

My heart goes out to you.

posted by allicat275 on July 29, 2005 at 9:07 PM | link to this | reply

I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. My prayers are with you.

posted by tigerprincess on July 29, 2005 at 5:07 PM | link to this | reply

Cass,

I'm so sorry to hear this, sweetie.  It seems we are never prepared for things like this, no matter how hard we try to brace ourselves beforehand.

Your plight is close to my heart.  If my mother were to pass today, I would have no way to get to her funeral.  I'm so glad she was here for a visit recently.

Warm, healing thoughts are blowing your way...

posted by .miriouma. on July 29, 2005 at 9:00 AM | link to this | reply

Oh Cass...

...I don't think anyone is prepared for the end.  My heart goes out to you my friend.  Memories, like the one you have of you and your Mom singing Sweet Chariot will be something you can carry with you forever.  Focus on those Cass and you'll find the strength.   

posted by ginnieb on July 29, 2005 at 8:03 AM | link to this | reply

Cass...

I'm so sorry for you and I hope it ends very peacefully for her.

posted by RedHeadedGypsy on July 29, 2005 at 6:10 AM | link to this | reply

Oh Ca88

how can we ever be fully prepared for something like this. It is a relieve that she is going to be a peace, but you are still losing her, even if she's not the person you remember.

I'll be thinking about you my friend.

posted by MerryAnne on July 29, 2005 at 5:56 AM | link to this | reply

Ca88andra, even though you know these things are coming you are never prepared fully. I helped care for my dying father and yes it was a relief at the end but still we cried.

posted by Azur on July 29, 2005 at 3:37 AM | link to this | reply

We're never really prepared.

I went through a long bout of cancer with a boyfriend's mom, and thought I would be ready when she died, but I wasn't.  The shock is less than a sudden death, but it doesn't lessen our grief.  I'm so very glad you got to go see her.  I'm happy for that.  I know the pain of not getting to, and you carry that with you forever.  Whatever you feel, whenever you feel it, in whatever form it comes in these next days or weeks...don't judge it or worry yourself over it.  Grief and loss are odd emotions and show up in ways we don't expect.  I'm here, sweet friend, if you need me.  We'll make another phone date, email, IM, whatever you need, ok?  Just take care and be gentle with yourself.

posted by Temple on July 29, 2005 at 3:25 AM | link to this | reply

CA88ANDRA DARLIN, YOU ARE NEVER PREPARED...YOU ARE IN MY ...

THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS. I AM SO GLAD YOU GOT TO SEE HER WHEN YOU DID. I REMEMBER ONE OF YOUR VISITS WAS A GOOD ONE... HOLD FAST TO ALL YOUR GOOD MEMORIES...LET THE OTHERS FADE INTO OBLIVION...

posted by muser on July 29, 2005 at 2:48 AM | link to this | reply

Schatz, I do worry about my father however he has choices and I can't change his mind. What will be will be.

posted by Ca88andra on July 29, 2005 at 1:49 AM | link to this | reply

Are you ever ready to lose your mother?  I think about losing my grandma and I have a terrible feeling.  All my grandparents are still with me, thanks to god.

Hang in there, you can get through it.  Will your dad be ok?

posted by Schatz on July 29, 2005 at 1:36 AM | link to this | reply

offbeat, thank you. I feel comforted by the song too.

posted by Ca88andra on July 29, 2005 at 1:35 AM | link to this | reply

Cass

I am so sorry for your suffering. When I hear that song, it gives comfort. God bless you and your family.

posted by Offy on July 29, 2005 at 1:33 AM | link to this | reply

Thank you Vane. I'm sure I have many more tears to come.

posted by Ca88andra on July 29, 2005 at 1:32 AM | link to this | reply

It's okay that you cry. Crying is healing, emotion is normal. Don't feel like you shouldn't cry. I hope everything turns out well for you.

posted by Vanidad on July 29, 2005 at 1:14 AM | link to this | reply