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Amen, Sistah!

I've learned the hard way I can't rescue people.  But I can try to love unconditionally . . . as I have been so loved.

Have a great week!

posted by JanesOpinion on October 23, 2005 at 6:59 PM | link to this | reply

JanesOpinion,
You said it. It's a fine line there, I think between thinking it's possilbe to "rescue" someone else and giving them the love to save themselves.  I know I've crossed that line, but letting God work miracles took the burden off me

posted by Blanche. on October 23, 2005 at 6:34 PM | link to this | reply

Blanche, you mentioned two key words --
miracle of love (OK, three words). I think the love of someone bestowed on another will have a powerful impact and can go a long ways to making a big difference in a person's life! I'm sure we've all been impacted in some way by being loved. Thanks for stopping by!

posted by JanesOpinion on October 23, 2005 at 6:23 PM | link to this | reply

JanesOpinion,
Sadly, I don't know what makes the difference between accepting reality as it is and taking responsiblity and forgiving oneself and others.  It's interesting how forgiving others allowed me to forgive myself, too. I don't know about this woman, but she's probably angry about a lot of things that happened in the past and if she let the past go, then it may feel like there's a lot of wasted time and nothing to show for it.   I don't know what to do about that, cause it seems to take a miracle of love to alter that perception. 

posted by Blanche. on October 23, 2005 at 5:45 PM | link to this | reply

Hi brisbane,

No, I work in long term care and rehab or, more commonly referred to as a "nursing home."

Thanks for stopping by!

posted by JanesOpinion on October 14, 2005 at 8:10 PM | link to this | reply

Sold four out of five!
 do you work in an addicition clinic?

posted by brisbane_artist on October 14, 2005 at 1:15 PM | link to this | reply

Taps I fear you are probably right.
Thanks so much for your wisdom.  I do believe she can have mental and emotional healing but it will take a lot of counseling, some psychotropics, and God.  She seems to enjoy being on the "magic pills," but doesn't believe she has a problem that would require counseling, so obviously is not ready to face the truth . . . yet! So sadly I believe you are correct.

posted by JanesOpinion on July 15, 2005 at 4:25 PM | link to this | reply

JanesOpinion, I am so glad to see you are writing again.   Thank you for letting me know that you were missing me.   About your question at the end of your blog:   You may have to come to terms with the fact that she may not want to overcome.   She just might be one of those who enjoys her misery so that she can lay guilt trips on others and get attention for herself.   She just may sabotage any efforts to make her feel better and have less to complain about.   Sad to say, there are people that way.

posted by TAPS. on July 14, 2005 at 8:00 PM | link to this | reply

Thanks Whacky,

yes, I've already made major changes in her meds, which are helping.  She was on far too many narcotics when she arrived!

Thanks for visiting and commenting.

posted by JanesOpinion on July 12, 2005 at 4:07 PM | link to this | reply

Some of her meds may be
making things worse. Maybe they could be scaled back or changed. And maybe some of the more upbeat residents could visit with her and help. My mom was in skilled nursing/reab and there was another resident there who really helped her she even mad her laugh. I credit that woman with helping mom live at home for at least and extra year. Hope this rambiling helps a little.

posted by Whacky on July 11, 2005 at 10:39 PM | link to this | reply