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hey ann thanks.......
posted by
Star5_
on January 27, 2005 at 5:31 PM
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ca88andra, thanks for the comment.........
posted by
Star5_
on January 27, 2005 at 5:30 PM
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Write poetry to live up to your dreams. In hopes, our spirits soar. We live yet another day; going closer to our goals.
Ann
posted by
A-and-B
on January 27, 2005 at 3:44 AM
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sue - you are certainly not in a good situation. If I were you I would talk to a counsellor and seek professional help. But I certainly wouldn't be paying the mortgage if he is living there! Good luck...
posted by
Ca88andra
on January 27, 2005 at 1:48 AM
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yes Ann.........
posted by
Star5_
on January 26, 2005 at 11:51 PM
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Sue,
Please keep your plans secret and under wraps. You don't know if he too is here, reading.
Ann.
posted by
A-and-B
on January 25, 2005 at 11:56 PM
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Thanks voyager, Thanks Ben...........
either I change him as a rock star......or I will move on so smoothly.........I have a plan.....but I will let you all know later..........
posted by
Star5_
on January 25, 2005 at 10:40 PM
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Sue,
Here are all the good wishes and thoughts for you from all of us here. Good night. You know the best. Good luck to you.
Ben.
posted by
A-and-B
on January 24, 2005 at 11:15 PM
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Dear Sister, If you live among wolves you have to act like a wolf.
VOYAGER9940
posted by
Voyager9940
on January 24, 2005 at 11:11 PM
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goodnight every one, I am so tired.....i will see you all tomorrow
posted by
Star5_
on January 24, 2005 at 11:10 PM
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Thanks voyager............
At times I need his help, so i don't want to fight.........but he knows the situation, so trying to give me hard time.
posted by
Star5_
on January 24, 2005 at 11:08 PM
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Dear Sister, sorry to mingle in thi, but wishing you lots of strength , a courage head and a wise mind over this. You are smart, and will certainly know how to survive and get what you deserve.
TAKE CARE!
VOYAGER9940
posted by
Voyager9940
on January 24, 2005 at 11:06 PM
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HE HAD A GIRL FRIEND BEFORE, NOT NOW.
this house was mine alone once, i added his name and thought he will pay for it, now he won't but i have a plan to set him up.....but don't know whether i have to do it. he thinks that i am a fool, he wants me back for the benifit or when ever he feels lonely.......I don't believe he truly loves me. i never forget the hell which i went through, but my children doesn't want to stay in apartment ( not kar, he always love to be anywhere with me), but vishnu is so afraid to leave daddy. I can understand some of it, because he might be thinking, if he leave dad, he will loose dad. I am in the middle of all hell........when i think too deep, i loose my mind....I am just trying to live.
posted by
Star5_
on January 24, 2005 at 11:01 PM
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That house belongs to you solely then you have to pay. If you remove the house option, then where would your boys stay? With his girlfriend? Surely you know what choices are left. Of course, everyone would suggest good things for you but you have to be strong and take the necessary action.
Choices are yours. Since you're ok, able to support the boys, then have them with you. Otherwise, just be happy with visiting them. All the best to you.
Ben.
posted by
A-and-B
on January 24, 2005 at 10:50 PM
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we do have a problem, because he has a house, and I have a house where they
are now, then I have a rented apartment where I am now. So complicated and he knows that I never like to hurt my kids feelings.........so, he is trying little more. but he has so much money, he wants know whether I am going to fight........I don't want to fight with him, because I don't want it.........but let see whether I can win or not.....Pray for me, I will survive.........but time is not on my side yet.
posted by
Star5_
on January 24, 2005 at 10:38 PM
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Maybe you ought to stay in a rented room or some place with child minding facilities. So your sons can live with you & be cared for while you're at work too. So many here have written good advice. Don't pay for the house, you need to save like a squirrel for your future & also for your sons' futures.
Ben.
posted by
A-and-B
on January 24, 2005 at 10:16 PM
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voyager, he is doing this because when I get so tied up, I get tired and go
back.......but I will not go back yet.........may be I never go back........I don't know.
posted by
Star5_
on January 24, 2005 at 9:59 PM
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Thanks for the idea passion, but I will set him up, but it's not my time
yet.........
posted by
Star5_
on January 24, 2005 at 9:57 PM
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Sue, here's my opinion
Tell him you won't pay the mortgage anymore and just stop doing it. It may get a month behind but eventually he'll pay it just to keep it from going against his credit. You are too easy and you let people take advantage of you. You should take some "assertiveness" classes or do something to make yourself a stronger person so you can stand your ground with people like him.
Most people will take advantage of anyone they can and it's pretty easy to tell which folks are going to be really easy to do this to. It's up to you to become a stronger woman.
posted by
Passionflower
on January 24, 2005 at 9:09 AM
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My dear sister, I wonder what would be his trigger in doing this! VOYAGER9940
posted by
Voyager9940
on January 24, 2005 at 8:20 AM
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He just do that just to make me frustrate, get tired and go back......
thanks for reading voyager.......Lucky thing is I have a good job, so I don't fall behind, but bad thing is he spents money like anything for anything else........
posted by
Star5_
on January 24, 2005 at 8:08 AM
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My dear sister, I'll be thinking along with you. And hope any better solution will fall into your hands!
Good luck!!
VOYAGER9940
posted by
Voyager9940
on January 24, 2005 at 8:05 AM
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I am tired of this,,,,,,,,
posted by
Star5_
on January 24, 2005 at 7:59 AM
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