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This is an optmistic update (here in the comments) on this issue. People who are willing to seek help may get changed for the better.
Ben.
posted by
A-and-B
on January 28, 2005 at 3:39 PM
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I met with his Mom this morning. I had called and she wanted to get together for a coffee. Which surprised me. Her husband is away on business. The Dad does some pretty heavy hitting with the belt and she knows this is not working, only escalating. I brought with me the number of a counseling system which is local and will meet with the son and them eight times one hour for free. Paid by the school system. She seemed happy about having someone to talk to. I told her to go even if the husband will not, and somehow get the son there talking. ....
posted by
the-loanlady
on January 25, 2005 at 11:48 AM
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LOANLADY~~~~
I just said a prayer.
I remember when I was an unhappy youngster in a house filled with Domestic Violence, I used to think about running away often. I kinda did, as I graduated high school at 16 and went away to college at barely 17, and wound up subsequently navigating myself through all kinds of trouble and life experiences, which have molded me into the woman I am today. Thankfully, without becoming too hardened~~~steel coated marshmallow, I still have my kind heart.
I used to give money to Covenant House, where Father Bruce it turns out was embezzling money and taking the young men who went to Coventant House for safety from a life of male prostitution to being victimized from him, putting them up and victimizing them himself.
That experience, as I reveal myself, is a primary factor in my reluctance to ever give cash to a charity.
You did not say how young this young man is. Does he understand that one of his most likely means of support is as a male prostitute, possibly under the control of another who takes all of the money and may give him a stipend?
Very sad situation....
posted by
WHAMENATOR
on January 25, 2005 at 1:45 AM
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You're a great lady to try to help out in this. A simple slice of effort in the overall complicated pie of family-school issues. Even if you don't see the desired results, the blessings and good karma will return to you somehow.
Ann.
posted by
A-and-B
on January 21, 2005 at 1:55 PM
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I hope things work out....
children are so fragile...
posted by
Original_Influence
on January 21, 2005 at 11:21 AM
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thanks original influence. I know it is difficult when there is a teacher personality conflict. When I see this young man I see his smiling face and joking manner and his intelligence behind it. I know it is so hard to motivate someone to get good grades, they have to want it. Sometimes they just need help with organization. I haven't heard back from his mother yet
posted by
the-loanlady
on January 21, 2005 at 11:20 AM
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the-loanlady,
sometimes...it is the teacher who puts down everything the child does, and so destroys his will to try....I have this problem with my youngest child...he has an IQ higher than mine, a mother who encourages good grades, but a teacher who lies and hides his work just so she can give him less than what he deserves....thank goodness for terra novas....a test he took every two years that proves he can do the work and a photocopy machine that proves he does....good luck....if you do call, suggest the parents talk to the teacher....
posted by
Original_Influence
on January 21, 2005 at 11:06 AM
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