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lol.

posted by Shavonne on January 13, 2005 at 7:44 PM | link to this | reply

obviously the blood is red...I meant the tears are red.  Oh whatever

posted by chris2303 on January 11, 2005 at 1:05 AM | link to this | reply

mary_x
Yeah, I wouldn't say we get involved in small talk for gossip purposes, it's more a case that the small talk keeps a civilised (despite transparent) atmosphere, which is kind of essential in an environment nobody wants to be in.  Apparently, you can see Mel Gibson cry in his Jesus film.  OK, the blood is red and it's coming out of his ears....

posted by chris2303 on January 11, 2005 at 1:05 AM | link to this | reply

Mary, I agree..........
If a Real Man needs to shed a tear, he can rest his head on my ample bosom and let it out! 

posted by WHAMENATOR on January 10, 2005 at 4:54 PM | link to this | reply

I wouldn't mind a manly tear or two from Mel Gibson, even if he was wearing a skirt at the time. Your description of your little scene with your boss makes me think how glad I am to be out of the corproate world where strangers pretend to ask each other how their day is when really it's just food for the gossip mill. 

posted by Blanche. on January 10, 2005 at 4:51 PM | link to this | reply

A Norseman

Watching your children being born is always a good way to get the tear ducts pumping out salty water...actually I didn't cry when my son was born - I've never cried out of happiness.  And I don't mind men crying - it sometimes can't be helped.  But like you say, it can be kept away from an audience who don't like feeling embarrassed by a cry-baby-man.  We're on the same wavelength, homeboy...

posted by chris2303 on January 10, 2005 at 12:00 AM | link to this | reply

fwmystic
It's true, most men are cowards and wet the bed, so have fun!

posted by chris2303 on January 9, 2005 at 11:54 PM | link to this | reply

DEVILINME1
See, this is where women are stronger than men, because you have the hugging gene which allows men to feel better and go back to their regular, pathetic lives.  Haha, you did better than I could in the situation you was in.  I would have had to shut the door and stay locked inside the house for at least seven weeks.

posted by chris2303 on January 9, 2005 at 11:53 PM | link to this | reply

the-loanlady
Well that's the thing...his son isn't dying, as such, but he does have a liver complaint.  He's not a drinker - just a sap.  And he still lives at home with his parents.  So a loser, too. It waas very much an unnecessary cry fest from my boss, probably over nothing more serious than paranoia and sympathy wanting.

posted by chris2303 on January 9, 2005 at 11:51 PM | link to this | reply

Chris...
I disagree partially with you.  I have never cried from pain, I don't understand that, even the zipper/foreskin combo doesn't get me there.  I have cried at certain movies though.  I cried when my children were born because I was just too happy and my emotion had nowhere else to go.  I do not blubber however, I don't make the ugly crying face...tears just come out of my eyes and roll down my face.  No one knows unless they are looking at me.  I agree however that it is very uncool when a guy has a blubbering fit in front of people.  If they can't control themselves they should leave when they feel it coming on, you are right, it is rather digraceful.

posted by A_Norseman on January 9, 2005 at 11:50 PM | link to this | reply

sassyass
It's a shame they haven't inevented a micro size tampon yet - one that is stuffed into the tear ducts and stops big girls crying.  And really, I'm not against men crying over something serious, as long as they lose their self respect in private.;)

posted by chris2303 on January 9, 2005 at 11:46 PM | link to this | reply

RachelAnna
Haha, yes, I can never remember any bloke not blubbering discreetly to himself. However, I suppose the blubbering ninnies are good for a mocking session, despite how embarrassing it is to watch!

posted by chris2303 on January 9, 2005 at 11:44 PM | link to this | reply

gypsyred
Sure, some things do deserve a little more compassion, but man-crying definitely isn't the way to go about getting some.  haha

posted by chris2303 on January 9, 2005 at 11:42 PM | link to this | reply

KlaraRoberts
Well I figured that was OK, since I don't know any of you people anyway.;)

posted by chris2303 on January 9, 2005 at 11:40 PM | link to this | reply

After years of repression, I can express my emotions freely now ...
knowing I can kick the crap out of most men.

posted by fwmystic on January 9, 2005 at 8:22 PM | link to this | reply

Is noone spared from your wrath? lol.. It is bad, isn't it? My neighbor,
(not the old wanker) was dating a friend of mine. She was way out of his league, and he was doing good to have her.  Then one day, she knocks on my door, stunned.  "He's bawling.. what the fuck do I do?  I mean, I feel bad for him (he's son had to go back home for another 6 months- that he doesnt do anything with in the first place), but, he's a guy.  I don't do the guy crying thing, and it's really freakin me out - what do I do?"  I took the bullet for her, ran and hugged him. Needless to say, he's back to dating skankies.

posted by Kiddo75 on January 9, 2005 at 7:17 PM | link to this | reply

I find myself uncomfortable when men or women cry at work. We don't choose the people we work with or/for to be our friends. I had a boyfriend in college who cried in front of me because of failing a test, he had to go that very same day I broke up with the blubbering mass.I expect a man to be stronger than me. However, if this boss at work knows his son is dying that would be sad. Is the son a drinker? Then it would not be sad just the son's choice.

posted by the-loanlady on January 9, 2005 at 3:11 PM | link to this | reply

Crying is irritating anyway, but
I don't find any fault in a man that cries over something serious. People that have bladders that lay close to their eyes and cry over small ridiculous things just plain need to be shot and put out of their misery.

posted by Sherri_G on January 9, 2005 at 11:20 AM | link to this | reply

Chris, As long as your team is not Arsenal or Real Madrid. You're on.

posted by tweedhead on January 9, 2005 at 11:02 AM | link to this | reply

LMAO!

While reading this post all I could picture was all the men that have cried in front of me over the years.  And, you're right, they can't do it without making a spectacle of themselves.

posted by RachelAnna on January 9, 2005 at 10:22 AM | link to this | reply

Chris...
I find it extremely uncomfortable when anyone cries in front of me. In his case I'd have been a bit understanding because I would probably have a hard time dealing with the possible loss of one of my kids. But in other cases, like when a bf sobbed over the phone at bootcamp because he wanted to come home... I just want to tell them to quit being wusses.

posted by RedHeadedGypsy on January 9, 2005 at 10:00 AM | link to this | reply

Hmmmmm. This piece is very interesting, Chris!
Hilariously told as always. You've opened up yourself here though, too, saying much about you as well as him.

posted by KlaraRoberts on January 9, 2005 at 9:52 AM | link to this | reply

WHAMENATOR
Nah, if any man cries in front of me then they deserve to have sand kicked in their face in front of their pale girlfriend.  Moohahahaha

posted by chris2303 on January 9, 2005 at 9:17 AM | link to this | reply

I do not like soft, wimpy men (or women for that matter) Chris2303

but for a man who is not soft to cry in front of another person shows a lot of trust and a lot of pain, and that is probably more healthy than holding it in.

A soft man?  Well just bitch slap him!

posted by WHAMENATOR on January 9, 2005 at 9:12 AM | link to this | reply

tweedhead
Go right ahead, I only like rugby when we win anyway.  As for football, well you may just have me on that one...

posted by chris2303 on January 9, 2005 at 8:57 AM | link to this | reply

Ariala
Listen, I know art when I see it and someone who has the nerve to bite flabby arms is definitely art.  And yes please, I'll have a Big Mac with minimum wage phlegm.

posted by chris2303 on January 9, 2005 at 8:56 AM | link to this | reply

I hope you lose the next Rugby Championship. I'll have my camera ready.

posted by tweedhead on January 9, 2005 at 7:03 AM | link to this | reply

maybe
 Winky 



posted by _Symphony_ on January 9, 2005 at 6:25 AM | link to this | reply

Chris, I think it hilarious that you always remember that little tidbit
about me...I am craving a big, flabby arm about now...heading to McDonalds, can I get you anything?

posted by Ariala on January 9, 2005 at 6:22 AM | link to this | reply

Ariala
I knew I could count on a fat arm biter like you to keep it real.  You are the man, homeboy.

posted by chris2303 on January 9, 2005 at 6:19 AM | link to this | reply

If anyone cries in front of me, I slap them...the shock makes them stop,

and then everyone can carry on.  Works quite well.

posted by Ariala on January 9, 2005 at 6:18 AM | link to this | reply

SYMPHONY
Only because you know you can beat them up...;)

posted by chris2303 on January 9, 2005 at 6:15 AM | link to this | reply

I think a man who crys infront of me

is a right turn on

 

posted by _Symphony_ on January 9, 2005 at 5:09 AM | link to this | reply