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I plan to respond to each and every comment but don't wish to rush it.
posted by
beachbelle
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December 17, 2004
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Jemmie
Talk about the ripple effect.
posted by
beachbelle
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December 17, 2004
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I had a similar thing happen with my old job
When I worked at UH Nursing school I felt the same way. Once the dean was fired, I knew I was soon to follow. My boss didn't like me, and the only reason I was still there was because the dean did like me and told my boss to leave me alone. After the dean left my job life became a living hell.
But I rest happy in knowing that the School of Nursing is totally screwed now because no one wants to be the dean there, and my boss can't get the associate dean's position she wants without a dean. And the students there are very unhappy with the program, so there will probably be fewer applicants in the future. And then the school will lose some of its funding and be hurting even more. I know that they are already desperate for faculty.
Serves them right for firing the best people they had working there.
posted by
Jemmie211
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December 17, 2004
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fairweather friends are not the best...
posted by
Original_Influence
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December 16, 2004
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Beachbelle,
Whew, it does get ugly in the workplace. I have worked for two major corporations, the first was a good experience for the most part, I had a very supportive boss. The second turned very ugly when a new person came into my work group and decided to play "Survivor" with me as the person being voted off the island. I outlasted her, but it got very stressful and caused me a great deal of mental and emotional pain.
It does seem unfortunate that the "pack mentality" seems to lead to an "attack mentality". I hope you have the last laugh and the best revenge of living well.
posted by
Blanche.
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December 15, 2004
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Beachbelle
Really a poignant post, and I can identify with that very much. How very hurtful to you.
You know Beachy I live in a town where I have those feelings you describe but they can't fire me or get rid of me.And I know it isn't just me, it's outsiders like me, Ian and Anna feel the same thing and they too are from "away."
Yes, I too have had the shingles over stress as well, horrible that is, my heart goes out to you luv
posted by
WileyJohn
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December 15, 2004
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beachbelle, my daughter was misunderstood, envied, wronged, dunno....
She thought in her Pollyanna way, enjoying her work, that everything was fine, that she was just joking around with a best friend over lunches and found that all words were being twisted, bent and painted ugly and then told to her supervisor, about both my daughter and her friend, about 'their conspiracy'.
It got so ugly, that we did the uncharacteristic family thing and used my two lawyer brothers to consult with and for help in answering vicious and malicious and untrue charges. Our advice was for her to leave and quickly as the place was so bad, that no one sane could remain there. They fired her friend for refusing to admit to and sign a paper referring to their conspiracy.
She applied and found a new job immediately and left politely, though I had advised her to take delicious Holiday cookies for her supervisor and cronies and smile as she offered them, complimenting their friendly helpful guidance, their perfect mentoring of her, etc. They would either find that they had made her insane, as they had been trying to do, or fear that she had poisoned the cookies, as they always thought the worst of people, and my daughter would have fun finally messing with their twisted brains. But, she didn't take cookies. Oh well......
Great Post, so many responses because it is a sad fact of work life. Some places are just poison.
posted by
benzinha
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December 14, 2004
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Have only experienced this feeling once. And it was a once that lasted three months, all coming from one person. A horrendous time.
posted by
_dave_says_ack_
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December 14, 2004
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belle
Writing about the living of the writing is still about writing. Interesting, thanks for sharing.
posted by
Justi
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December 13, 2004
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I often say work is not related to fun, friends, or family we are there to make money.
But human nature, bickering, power plays, favoritism, nonsense seems to permeate even at work.
Wonder what was her problem??? Jealousy I think.
posted by
the-loanlady
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December 13, 2004
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I don't exactly know why you got canned if you got canned.
posted by
SlyCy
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December 13, 2004
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thanks for sharing beachbelle
you are very strong and wise....it could have damaged your confidence.....good for you that it hadn't
posted by
_Symphony_
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December 13, 2004
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This was very good beachbelle, reminds me of all I hate in work politics.
posted by
Ca88andra
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December 13, 2004
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So happy to be away
from the politics and backstabbing of the work a day world. It always seems that there are those who wish to win favor by degrading those doing their jobs instead of doing their own.
posted by
Moondawg
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December 12, 2004
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Happens to me often, it's
why I work for myself. I guess it's for the better. When I know what I want, I'm unstoppable. Coincidentally, I am listening to 'Wild horses' by the Rolling Stones right now. I sure know what that feels like Mick. Ha! Take care Beachbelle, hope you are having a nice weekend:)
Wild horses, couldn't drag Beachbelle away... hehehe
posted by
Flumpystalls3000
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December 12, 2004
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Afternoon Beach,
I've had that feeling too. However I am also pig headed and when the powers that be tried to make me miserable enough to quit I stayed instead and ended up outlasting them. Of course after they left I did too, I didn't really want the job, I just didn't want to be forced to quit.
posted by
MerryAnne
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December 12, 2004
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Very interesting to read, Beach
The chill is always so noticeable and the reason for it so inscrutable.
posted by
TAPS.
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December 12, 2004
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But this IS about writing, Beach.
I found this mesmerizing, and have read it over three times. This is one of those revelation moments, that clearly was a stepping stone to the path you now walk, freelance writing.
You and I share so much more than what I even initially thought, and I'm awestruck. My younger brother took terminally ill, while I held a high level position at a place I loved. Before this all happened, I was I believed, "loved" for being myself. When my brother took ill, and I was forced to move him in with me and take over his care, I needed time off to redo my life, as can be imagined. I was refused this initially but eventually got it. When I returned, I felt like you the "chill" that had accumulated.
I had thought I was important there for being myself. I was only important there because of the devotion and energy I brought to the job. I left in six months after this revelation.
Sometimes "bad" happens for "good" reasons, as if you and I look back on this, it put us both on a different life course.
Superb post. I will be lost when you're on vacation, although I know you deserve it.
posted by
KlaraRoberts
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December 12, 2004
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Beach,
It's awesome that you stayed true to yourself, and still do. Many would have hidden themselves away - I know I probably would have. You kept doing what you love, which speaks volumes about your character. You deserve every success you achieve.
posted by
myrrhage_
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December 12, 2004
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Beach
Interesting reflection. Politics in the work place. Even in my environment, there is posturing.....
posted by
Wildwoman_Laloba
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December 12, 2004
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No you won't get that here
I did happen across some of the stuff yesterday. I don't know why people don't just write.
posted by
beachbelle
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December 12, 2004
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and to think i missed this post before i started ranting - luckily (hopefully) i won;t get acused of the P word around here in these parts....
posted by
littlemspickles
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December 12, 2004
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OCEANDANCER
Now I look at it like it could have been worse. thanks
posted by
beachbelle
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December 12, 2004
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Oh, terrible feeling.
Glad you're on the other side of that horrible occurance.
posted by
Oceandancer
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December 12, 2004
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An hour of reading and commenting and nary a hello...
.. take care all
posted by
beachbelle
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December 12, 2004
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Sorry.. Zack
Oh you mean a break from writing. Yeah maybe I should switch to Opinion (I have some) or creative non-fiction (if only we had that)
posted by
beachbelle
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December 11, 2004
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Zack
I think everyone experiences that. I had a friend who had it happen because her voice is loud.
Yes a break will be good
posted by
beachbelle
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December 11, 2004
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Good for you for taking a break.
Wow, what a kick in the head this was for me to read. It was only a few months ago that someone I work with went through almost the exact same thing with her new supervisor. In the end, it turned out that the worker had not been doing anything out of the norm, but rather that the supervisor "took issue" with her employee’s forward and very strong personality. The supervisor felt that her employee was trying to show "dominance" where it didn’t belong when all she was really doing was conducting herself the same she’d always done. Because all the other people around her, all her peers, had grown accustomed to her way of working, no one noticed – except for the new supervisor.
Very interesting how these events happen in workplaces.
posted by
Zachary.N.Miles
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December 11, 2004
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word.smith.It is not only insecurity but blind ambition which causes people
to seek to discredit colleagues. They say never kick people on the way up as you will meet them again on the way down
posted by
beachbelle
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December 11, 2004
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Bb, it's been my
experience that feelings of insecurity cause people to wreak havoc in the workplace.
posted by
word.smith
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December 11, 2004
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kelli
I am pleased to hear it
posted by
beachbelle
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December 11, 2004
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QuirkyAlone
It means to sit close and shelter from the chill. But what was more important to me was that I was not left in the cold
posted by
beachbelle
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December 11, 2004
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beach, yes i've been a bit cold lately, but i'm warmer now, i'm sure it will fluctuate. nice post.
posted by
Kelli
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December 11, 2004
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With your help I'm going to not only learn the definition of Invidious but also what "rug up" means...help me beachbelle! lol. The woman's karma came back to bite her, hehe!
posted by
Julia.
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December 11, 2004
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Celeste
Eventually his influence will fade. These things waste so much time and energy and rob people of the pleasures of the day. Thanks for staying the course in a rather long post
posted by
beachbelle
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December 11, 2004
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I have just finished enduring a similar experience. I don't know everything that was done behind my back, but the chill was clear from Mr. Disgruntled(I've written about him in other jobs) who had wanted me ousted from where I work. He ended up resigning, and his last day was a week ago Friday. Still dealing with rumors he started with the new employee. I think just by existing and having a very open honest style (he tended to believe in being covert) was like red in front of a bull.
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Celeste632
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December 11, 2004
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