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How are you
holding up now?
Ben
posted by
A-and-B
on November 13, 2004 at 9:30 PM
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melody if there is any help you need please send me email-- my older brother similar. Prayers for you to be strong and march! love ...
posted by
the-loanlady
on November 13, 2004 at 9:18 PM
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Melodystar
The house will all come together luv. Why don't you take a holiday somewhere while they work on it, then you would get rid of some stress. You control your own mind, start controlling.
Run it through your head our brother may do what he says: " THAT IS NOT YOUR DOING" if a person decides to do that, it's a choice they make and carry out alone. When they can't have life delivered on their terms,they quit. LIVE YOUR LIFE Melody!!!
posted by
WileyJohn
on November 13, 2004 at 9:17 AM
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Bob the Builder,
might do a better job.
Except he's in cartoon land.
Ann
posted by
A-and-B
on November 12, 2004 at 5:21 PM
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Whammie
I told my Mother excactly that but not in those word I said you raised him .
posted by
Melodystar
on November 12, 2004 at 8:50 AM
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Melody, there is a quote that I hate, but which came to mind.....
"If it don't kill ya, then it makes you stronger!"
I think I am strong enough, thank you....is my answer to those words!
Hang in there!
I cannot believe your mom tried to blame you for your brother's problems. If you are inclined to lash out, tell her that she is the one who raised him, so perhaps she f*cked up doing her job, and it is her fault! 
Nah, don't do that. It will just create bigger problems for you.
Whammie
posted by
WHAMENATOR
on November 12, 2004 at 8:46 AM
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the loanlady
We were told 4 months ago to be ready to close ! My husband ownes his own mortgage company. We had to figuring we gave them plaenty of time. We had the loan locked twice . The said 4-6 weeks at thew end of July!!!! So we set it for Septemeber. Thank you for reading . My brother I have done this so many time I am lost just thinking about it.
posted by
Melodystar
on November 12, 2004 at 8:14 AM
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johnmcnab
Thank you, I keep caling but no return calls. I hope he gets whatever it is he deserves.
posted by
Melodystar
on November 12, 2004 at 8:10 AM
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Melody
I know it isn't much, but I'll keep my fingrs crossed for you and hope the builder gets his
after he has finished your home.
posted by
johnmacnab
on November 11, 2004 at 7:24 PM
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Interest rates have changed little in the past three months who ever advised you to pay points up front to extend a lock is not very fair or straight. Construction ALWAYS takes longer than the Builder tells you. Can you go by the house each morning and keep notes on who is there working and what progress is moving? Assuming the house is buttoned down ( dry wall up and taped, windows and doors completed and final rough coat on exterior done you could close by the 15th IF all the appliances are already delivered. Do not accept the house with little ticky tacky remaining details- once you close getting the guy with the 42 cent cell phone to talk to you again will be amazing. Speak civil to him, but call as much as you feel will get him to show up at your house every day. God the brother, what can you do to get him on some serious counseling- I think if you threaten suicide family members can actually have him committed for seven days. Does he exercise? Thoughts and prayers for you
posted by
the-loanlady
on November 11, 2004 at 5:06 PM
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Hugs
Thank you, I am fine just need to get in y new house!
posted by
Melodystar
on November 11, 2004 at 2:04 PM
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my dear, i really hope you feel better soon, youe just the sweetest xoxoxoxixoxoxox
posted by
hugz_n_kisses
on November 11, 2004 at 2:00 PM
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Word Smith
They are charging allright!! He wont even answer my phone calls!! I am so mad!!
posted by
Melodystar
on November 11, 2004 at 1:55 PM
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There is no disappointment in store,
if we say we'll try. Building contractors and some tradesmen are notorious for this type of behaviour. If it jobwork, then they get it done quickly. If it's by the hour, they make you pay through the nose. I hope you're in a better frame of mind.
posted by
word.smith
on November 11, 2004 at 1:53 PM
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SYMPHONY
I am not really sad just fustrated... with the buliders.
posted by
Melodystar
on November 11, 2004 at 1:41 PM
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melodystar......you seem so sad
I do hope you are ok?...you have so much going on right now....but I am here for you
posted by
_Symphony_
on November 11, 2004 at 1:36 PM
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I call him almost everday now since we will have no place to go as of next Wednesday!
posted by
Melodystar
on November 11, 2004 at 1:24 PM
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Part and parcel of the builders' trade.
Maybe need someone to muscle in on them.
Ben
posted by
A-and-B
on November 11, 2004 at 1:22 PM
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Tapsel
Yes I did see it, it great!! Thank you so much. Something that you said in your post inspried something inside.
posted by
Melodystar
on November 11, 2004 at 12:41 PM
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MelodyStar - You have a lot of weight on your shoulders right now.
I know it is hard not to let it get you down. But, don't let it keep you down. Whammie just gave me this quote and I think it is a good one. Maybe you saw it already:
Being defeated is a temporary condition...
Giving up is what makes it permanent!
posted by
TAPS.
on November 11, 2004 at 12:38 PM
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Yes Mel it is very frustrating, but its the way alot of people are and we have to put up with it coz we cant go around changing everyone .... *sigh*
Oh yea Mel I know, my brother is the only boy in the family and the youngest so he is so protected by my mom and everything said and done affects him sheesh, if he fails an exam its our fault coz we didnt teach him, if he hangs with bad people its coz we didnt watch out for him bla bla bla.... i think its a way of covering up parents own faults when they see bad things in their children, blame it on others in the family... dont let her get to you,.. i learned this the hard way
posted by
Tanoolicious
on November 11, 2004 at 12:05 PM
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Tanoolicious
It;s fustrating!! People should not promise, if they can not deliver. My mother is a different story. We`argue about the same stuff all the time if you know what I mean.He is her only son and no one can say anything.Thanks for everything! Hugs back at you!
posted by
Melodystar
on November 11, 2004 at 12:00 PM
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Melody it happens to me all the time and i get really upset and feel so incredibly let down because almost everyone i know never keeps their promises.... when i say something, i do it 90% of the time unless i forget or something gets in the way and i do it with my heart...
i know sometimes i care too much and expect too much, but alot of times people are more talk than action, so hang in there sweetie and im sure things will work out....
What your mom said is so uncalled for, that is so untrue!! Tell her she should really look and see where all his source of bad luck is coming from, not from his sister and family... tell her she should know better....
if you need anything, email me *hugs*
posted by
Tanoolicious
on November 11, 2004 at 11:51 AM
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