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it is so hard to accept that they are gone that you have to get on alone.......it all seems so sureal especially as the world seems to stop with you as well!
having a good cry and thinking about them keeps the memory alive.....I too tried to not believe it but it does make the process ever so much longer...if you do feel that you are unable to cope....please go to a doctor they can give you very good advice......but
otherwise.........do as you are doing....you are doing the best that you can ...and I am proud of you...good luck....chapter after chapter in the end................time is a healer
posted by
_Symphony_
on November 10, 2004 at 3:31 PM
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It's so true Symphony
I made the mistake of trying to stop the journey (so I didn't have to admit he was really gone).
posted by
DivineDiva
on November 10, 2004 at 3:24 PM
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there are so many parts and chapters to grieveing
the only comfort I can give you...is all the process is a mending process and once you accept it thats when time becomes your healer
it is not at all easy, I am here for you...whichever you feel at the time, I have been before and I understand so well.............so please feel free to get them feelings out.....
posted by
_Symphony_
on November 10, 2004 at 3:20 PM
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This week is a doozy Symphony
Every single thing seems to have a memory attached to it......so this week has been very emotional. But part of the journey??
Thank you Symphony for keeping an eye on me 
posted by
DivineDiva
on November 10, 2004 at 3:17 PM
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are you ok?
I have been thinking about you
posted by
_Symphony_
on November 10, 2004 at 3:14 PM
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Again, thank you Wiley for these words
I've found that since my return from the weekend in "our city", that my emotions are running higher than before. I can't speak about him without breaking down. The first few weeks after his death I think I pushed down all this emotion in order to survive, and now it's surfacing to be faced.
Thank you Wiley, so much.
posted by
DivineDiva
on November 10, 2004 at 3:11 PM
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DivineDiva
Take it minute by minute, allow your tears to flow and flow and flow.
Do not try to be brave, accept your grief and your sorrow, let it wash over you, and eventually the tears will slow down, but never stop. For me they haven't anyway.
Slowly you'll build another life for yourself, it takes a lot of time. For me, Joyce is still with me, almost physically at times I feel, but not really of course.
I can tell you this much, that the love you had will force peace upon you eventually, give you strength to go on, maybe eventually to even reach out again in love. Maybe not.
That hasn't worked for me, but maybe I'm lots older than you are, and that makes a difference.
Shalom
posted by
WileyJohn
on November 8, 2004 at 10:13 PM
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Thanks Wiley
How did you cope in those first few weeks? I am struggling with coping with the reality that he is never going to be with me again.
posted by
DivineDiva
on November 2, 2004 at 5:46 PM
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Diva
I am so sorry with you, I too lost my love over 4 years ago now. Just try to "BE" for a longish while and the hurt will lift, but the heart will always remember. Bless your days kiddo
posted by
WileyJohn
on November 1, 2004 at 9:19 PM
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