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Ok, try this exercise to find out the answer

look in the mirror ...look in your eyes ....say slowly, "I love you" Now note your response (like "bullshit") Now say it again, "I love you" note response keep repeating this for 5 full minutes. Do this every day for 21 days.

My guarantee: you will know and love yourself by the end of 21 days.
Light,
Shams

posted by Shams-i-Heartsong on August 8, 2006 at 3:50 AM | link to this | reply

Good Morning BlueRoses!

     Haven't heard from you in awhile.  I read your blog and just want you to know there was a time that I felt I lost my own identity.  I defined myself as somebody's wife and somebody's mother.  But, I made the time to do things that I wanted to do.  Such as go on a short bike ride, sew and work correspondense courses.  I adored my large family, but I still needed to do some of the things that made me be me.  Somehow, the time exploring who I was, made me even more gentle with the children and if possible even more awed with all my blessings. 

posted by jacenta on January 14, 2005 at 7:20 AM | link to this | reply

You're still in there

Sweet girl, you're just taking a time out to be a mom, but you're still in there.

Blogging, in my experience, is a great way to keep in touch with that - just posting about rediscovering yourself can begin the journey.  Just be proud at what a damn fine mom you are, and start from there . . .

Oh, and also, don't forget to add remarkable and empathetic being to your list of traits, because your comment about how you're thinking and praying for me and the JAG made me cry.  At work.  In front of co-workers.    You're the best, Blue.

-pk

posted by poetkitty on September 20, 2004 at 1:00 PM | link to this | reply

Imagine

Imagine how those of us standing on the stairsteps to 40 with little children feel.  :)

What that tells me is your baby is getting the best care you can provide.  When you are the center of the universe for something so dependent, it isn't hard to lose focus.  As they become older, you should be able to redefine yourself, have time to put on make up, find time to be a kid yourself occasionally.  Just give it time and remember to check in with yourself.

 

posted by Whim on September 20, 2004 at 12:22 AM | link to this | reply

Unfortunately...

we are forced to define ourselves through others.  Otherwise, what would it matter?  The opinions and reactions of others becomes a gauge we can measure ourselves by.  I claim to look like a young Harrison Ford.  No one else sees it, so I am wrong.  That keeps me from looking like an idiot since I really don't look anything like Harrison Ford.  Am I making any sense?

posted by food4thought on September 20, 2004 at 12:02 AM | link to this | reply