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That's a real nice description of your family.  I would have enjoyed making a big one too, if we had married younger.  But we're working on four.  Three are already here.

posted by TARZANA on November 4, 2004 at 8:15 AM | link to this | reply

I was raised an only child but I wish I had brothers and sister growing up, especially since we (my mother and I) lived so far away from the rest of the family.

You just keep having as many kids as you like. 

posted by Shavonne on May 27, 2004 at 6:27 AM | link to this | reply

I have 6 sisters and 1 brother (he died last year in the plane crash)

I have two daughters and one hubby. 

posted by poetjpb on May 26, 2004 at 10:01 PM | link to this | reply

Good for you...

I wish I had more than just one sister.  A tidbit for everyone...there is no population problem in the world--every person in the world can fit into the state of Texas with 1300 square feet of living space each.  Simple equation:  # of people in the world divided by the square footage of the state of Texas.

posted by Gheeghee on May 20, 2004 at 9:24 AM | link to this | reply

Schatz, I like your style
You know what's important and you don't give a fiddler's fart.

My mother-in-law used to tell me it wasn't fair for me to stay home, placing the burden of breadwinning for a large family solely on my husband. She was a working mother and evidently thought I sat around eating bonbons all day. Of course, she thinks we're nuts to have all these kids. We were close to broke through the earlier years and she was afraid we wouldn't be able to give our kids everything they wanted. If you've read my post "Always room for one more" you can guess what I think about that. She does realize now what kind of work I do all day. We left the kids with her husband and her once when we had 5. She was wiped out and her husband actually did most of the care. A real dose of reality. She was big enough to apologize for her former remarks.

My husband's background is similar to you and your husband's except he is close in age to his siblings, but not close emotionally. His parents were divorced when he was 9 and he always wanted a large family. He got and still gets some unkind remarks from family and business associates. But he's like you. When I ask if these things bother him he says,"Aah, fuck 'em!"

posted by AnCatubh on May 19, 2004 at 9:14 PM | link to this | reply


A lady I work with had the nerve to ask when my wife and I were going to have kids (we've been married less than two years). I told her, "We don't have sex. Our marriage is a sham." We'll have kids when we want and not a moment sooner. No one should have to explain themselves to anyone else if their actions don't break any laws. Ignore people like this. What do they know?

Schatz: I've read a lot of quotes on Blogit, by a lot of different people, but this is the first time I've run across Ice Cube. I guess I'm going to have to bow down.

posted by Talion on May 19, 2004 at 4:46 PM | link to this | reply

All you haters need ta shut the fuck up and get behind me (Ice Cube)

We have a 5(f) 3(m) and a 16 mo.(f) and people actually beg me not to have any more kids.  My best friend who's had 3 abortions, my mother in law, who admits my husband was 'supposed to be an accident' but admits, to me of all people, Queen of I-HATE-LIARS-LAND, that she got pregnant on purpose.  Well, I hope by 40 and your 3rd, you'd have figured it out, but whatever.

I want 4 kids, and so does my husband.  We can barely rub two nickels together right now, but check out my last poem, Go to My friend's dad died today, after a long cancer battle. I'm so sad for her.  I don't care a bit about money.  Can we afford to go to Disney? No.  Do we plan to be able to someday?  Yep.  If we can't are we 'failed parents'?  Nope, cause much like yours, my kids are wonderful gifts from God, in my eyes, and I treat them as such.  And in their eyes, I am God. 

Do I lose my temper?  Get frustrated and spank or scream?  Freak if we don't have anything left after diapers and food?  Yes, yes and yes.  Do I ever wish they weren't born?  NEVER.

I was an only child 'til my parents had another when I was 17.  My hubby's brothers are 15 and 17 years older than him.  We both hated it.  I love my family.  Fuck what everybody else says.  I get the same staring and freaking out and I only have 3.

posted by Schatz on May 19, 2004 at 4:11 PM | link to this | reply

ah, yes but how do you define quality of life?

posted by AnCatubh on May 19, 2004 at 3:59 PM | link to this | reply

yea for the boys
better than the other way around.
try this
I grew up an only child, adopted.
discovered my biological family and I was the sixth of my bilogical mother -- met all my brothers and sisters -- great experience.
My biological mother was next youngest of 14.
I say if you can care for and do right by a large family in terms of providing love, attention, good rearing and quality of life, then fine.
But it's quality of life and environment that's most important.

posted by Xeno-x on May 19, 2004 at 9:22 AM | link to this | reply

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