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Not if I lost my animals. 

posted by lonebutte on May 19, 2004 at 9:31 PM | link to this | reply

tremacc, I agree with what you said about life defining you,
rather than "stuff" but I also think not many people follow this tenet, unfortunately. Thanks for reading!

posted by Julia. on May 19, 2004 at 12:18 PM | link to this | reply

Good post.  Brings about reflection of the past and anticipation for the future.   I think for me the keyword is life.   I think that your very life and how you choose to live it defines you, not what you have.  When I am laying down in the still, quiet dark of night without distraction, stuff isn't what I think about.   I think I'm more into the intangible than the tangible, though.   Nice read.   Thanks for writing.

posted by Tremac on May 18, 2004 at 8:39 PM | link to this | reply

sftreat--wow. Thanks so much for your comment. You are right, after the stuff is gone, we are still here.

passionflower--well, I'm glad somebody did. It kind of snuck up on me...

moondawg--thanks. It's great to write about things people can identify with, isn't it?

posted by Julia. on May 18, 2004 at 5:10 PM | link to this | reply

OMG!!!
That is such a current and relevant subject for me.  I used to live life as outsider.  I was way out there.  You don't need details.  That just glorifies my past.  But the end result was when I walked out on the life of crime I shared with the Love of My Life - He stayed in the life to this day.  I lost everything I owned, including all my mementos, my dad's ashes and my birds, my cameras, my art supplies, everything I thought was mean and mine.  And it took me a year, before I could speak of it, without feeling like a fresh rip just snagged my sould and made me bleed again.  I still hurt, I still ache, I still want the things that are gone back...  But that's gone, over and done with, physically speaking.  So I live with the Serenity Prayer in my head and heart, and sometimes I live life 5 minutes at a time, while I try to get to know the real me.  I was not my stuff, and my stuff was not me, because after it was gone, I was still here, reeling from the loss and the pain.  But it gets better.  Very slowly.  Just one day at a time.  Peace and love to those of you who really know what I mean and God Bless and Protect you that don't so that it may never happen to you!  The Treat

posted by sftreat on May 18, 2004 at 3:44 PM | link to this | reply

Quirky, I knew Omar's house fire would do this to you. You're all philosophical, like what's the meaning of life? Why am I here? What's truly important? This is a stage that's normal for you to got thru. I hope you figure out some important issues.

posted by Passionflower on May 18, 2004 at 3:40 PM | link to this | reply

Twice I've had first hand experience
with this exact thing. When I divorced I left the marriage with less than I had when I went into it. Was ready for the new and didn't want the sentimental garbage. The second time I became so tired of who I was and where my life was going, that after a burglury one nigh,t about six months after the divorce, took the few things that I had attachments to, I piled everything else up and burned it.
I've had a whole different view of the materialistic since that time. I'm more about who i am not about what I am connected to. Great post very thought provoking.

posted by Moondawg on May 18, 2004 at 3:28 PM | link to this | reply