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Like My First Sponsor Used to Say...

...the only way to weaken the control of an addiction is to STARVE THE ADDICT OUT.

Fasting is very useful in this regard.  I'd recommend it to anyone coming out of a serious LTR, a long stretch of asequential non-monogamy, or just a plain ol' string of 3 or more serial relationships.  It clears the mind to not have all those neurochemicals bouncing around inside your skull and making think less of yourself because you can't stop thinking about yourself, less.

Self esteem is a choice, not a feeling.  It is my reputation with myself.  If I sell out to be with someone because they overstimulate my nervous system to the point of euphoria, I can expect pain and low self esteem to the inevitable result.

posted by Volaar on September 29, 2004 at 8:41 AM | link to this | reply

Try Fasting?
I know you have visited my blog Sexy is as sexy does, but I recomment fasting on sex to deal with this addiction.
Light,
Shams

posted by Shams-i-Heartsong on September 26, 2004 at 9:16 PM | link to this | reply

i like this i am employing my thinking cap and gown i am sure

i will need to re-read this when I am not so sleepy.  It deserves my full attention, because it is a summation of a part of my life.  ages 5 though 9  wow   how cool that this is evident   i am so lost because of what i experienced in my formative years.  i am very alone on this one. But not totally.

I appreciate your  vista into this abyss...  mysteria  lost girl

posted by mysteria on June 3, 2004 at 12:24 AM | link to this | reply

hey paul..........

posted by Star5_ on June 1, 2004 at 6:48 PM | link to this | reply

I watch porn, occasionally with my man and enjoy it.  But I do understand what you're talking about and even agree with you.  I sometimes look at the women on the screen or in the pages of male magazines and wonder what's going on behind their sultry eyes? I wonder how they feel looking at themselves in the mirror?   I wonder if they realize that they are rendering themselves worthless to millions....

And the answer I believe is that they're too screwed up to care....

I love this article.  Keep blogging 

posted by lkoo on September 22, 2003 at 2:10 PM | link to this | reply

I watch porn, occasionally with my man and enjoy it.  But I do understand what you're talking about and even agree with you.  I sometimes look at the women on the screen or in the pages of male magazines and wonder what's going on behind the sultry eyes? I wonder how the feel looking at themselves in the mirror?   I wonder if they realize that they are rendering themselves worthless to millions....

And the answer I believe is that they're too screwed up to care....

I love this article.  Keep blogging 

posted by lkoo on September 22, 2003 at 2:07 PM | link to this | reply

I Love Porn
There's nothing wrong with a love of porn provided it's just a recreational thing like introducing sex toys now and then or swapping partners. I have always loved porn and I'm a girl. When I was married my husband thought I was a perv and refused to buy it or let me watch it. Secretly it probably would have turned him on but maybe he didn't want to show that side of himself to me.

Now my bf and I watch porn from time to time and if I want to get off really quickly, I put a little on. I know it's just fantasy but it has its uses and I enjoy it. And ever since I split up with my husband, I'm not ashamed to let men know that I like it because it's part of who I am.

posted by angelmarch15 on April 4, 2003 at 1:38 PM | link to this | reply

Nothing healthy about porn

Porn really doesn't do anything positive for us, especially if you are in a relationship!  It interferes with intimacy and makes our hearts cold and dark.  It becomes a drug we use to mask and avoid our feelings.  Believe me I know.  I used porn from the age of 12 until now!  I'm trying to quit, but STILL find it difficult.  I've used it for so long to soothe my anger, resentment and most of all fear.  All that time spent objectifying women would have been soooo much better spent at work, with my wife(now ex) or even sleeping.

It's only when you start living without porn do you realize how destructive it really is.

posted by middleman on March 31, 2003 at 2:17 PM | link to this | reply