Wednesday, May 19, 2004
How to manipulate someone into supporting you
I gave this post the title I did because I was reminded of my former boyfriend when I was researching the topic this morning. I've mentioned before - briefly - that my former boyfriend would support himself by padding his credit card bills, telling his mother (who handled the family finances) that... Sign in to see full entry.
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Tuesday, May 18, 2004
Acceptance and healing
Not too long ago, I wrote about the five stages of grief, and I hope I applied some of those stages to the process of abuse recovery. It is my theory that one must first learn to accept that one is being abused before one can truly recover from abuse. Victims continually either deny that they are... Sign in to see full entry.
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Friday, May 14, 2004
Children, animals, and other living beings
A quintessential marker of abuse is the way in which the abuser reacts to outsiders. Here, I can use my own experience as something of an example. My former boyfriend used to get jealous as all get out if I so much as had an innocent conversation with a bystander. It is also often axiomatic that... Sign in to see full entry.
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The lonesome loser
Reading someone else's blog today, I was reminded of one of my former boyfriend's least pleasing characteristics. At the time I dated him, he had no paying job, and spent merely two hours a day performing the task he claimed was his profession on his income tax return: writing. Well, without even... Sign in to see full entry.
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Wednesday, May 5, 2004
I would strongly suggest...
reading Jemmie211's Opinionated Bitch. She tells the story of a friend of hers and that friend's children, and I'm worried about the lot of them. If you are currently in a situation similar to Jemmie's friend, get the (bleep) out. I mean NOW. And as you go, make your theme song "Birmingham," by... Sign in to see full entry.
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Monday, April 26, 2004
Recovering from abuse
This has been the challenge for me of late. I believe that it is possible to recover from abuse and move on with one's life. In fact, this is a highly individual process, but well worth the time and effort it takes to get there. I think recovery from abuse can operate the way grief does. Many of us... Sign in to see full entry.
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Thursday, April 8, 2004
Emotional and verbal abuse
I know I've written about these subjects before; that's what this blog is all about, after all. However, I'm finding myself stymied, in the sense that I don't know how much more I can write about this subject without repeating myself endlessly. I'm sure readers of this blog don't want to read... Sign in to see full entry.
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Thursday, March 4, 2004
The skewed thinking of one abuser
Someone took the time to comment on the fact that I've visited my former partner's website. Part of the motivation behind those website visits is research, pure and simple, despite the fact that (to put it mildly) some of the content on that website is far from mainstream. Frankly, the material is... Sign in to see full entry.
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Tuesday, March 2, 2004
"You're just obsessed with the past"
This is another lie told me by my abuser. He would love for me to quit writing about our relationship (such as it was) precisely because he doesn't want to be confronted with his own past behavior. Granted, the world has changed in the 27 years since we broke off our relationship. But, as the old... Sign in to see full entry.
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Blaming the victim
In researching some abuse sites today, I found myself relating to this symptom of abuse. I've actually been blamed for something which happened to my former partner. The short description of the incident is that he blamed me for his getting into a hit-and-run accident; specifically, he claimed he... Sign in to see full entry.
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The name of the post is derived from a Francis Schaeffer book, and intended to rebut something I'd seen on the Internet. The blog itself is about what I've learned about relationships from the ones I've had, and the ones I've observed. It will not be pleasant to read, and might wander off-topic occasionally, but is intended to be a long-term blog reading like a public journal.  Links
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