Wednesday, June 30, 2004
Does anyone remember the Lisa Steinberg case?
Joel Steinberg, the man who illegally adopted Lisa, was released from prison today after serving fifteen years of a 25-year sentence for Lisa's murder. I don't know if anyone remembers the controversy surrounding this case, but I have some vague memories of it. I remember specifically that Hedda... Sign in to see full entry.
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Wednesday, June 16, 2004
Is it love or is it enabling?
First of all, thanks to Editormum for suggesting this particular topic. Many of us have a difficult time telling the difference between love and enabling. In fact, a joke in the recovery community states that you're enabling if you offer someone a cup of coffee while you're over at the coffee pot... Sign in to see full entry.
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Monday, June 14, 2004
Is it love, or is it abuse?
One of the warning signs I should have looked for - but was too naive to do - was to become sensitized to the possibility that my former partner was rushing things just a bit. We were holding hands on the first date, and we became intimate almost right away, as well. This is a cardinal warning sign... Sign in to see full entry.
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Sunday, June 6, 2004
Telling all
This is one of the most significant boundary violations I have had to deal with in my life. I seem to be surrounded by people who know they don't have permission to talk about me but do so anyway. In fact, I joke about them buying billboards on the local tollway for premium prices just to make sure... Sign in to see full entry.
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Friday, June 4, 2004
Boundaries
This is such an important topic relating to abuse that I'm surprised I hadn't thought of covering it before. I have always thought that the term "boundaries" referred simply to having a strong identity. In other words, if you are someone who knows yourself well, you likely have strong boundaries... Sign in to see full entry.
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Friday, May 28, 2004
Where does this fit in?
I've told this story on Themestream, so those of you who used to write for that site might recognize it. I was wondering how to tie it in to abuse issues, until I thought about it for a little bit. I remember a time when I wore a pair of pants my former partner just didn't like. Now, I'm not saying... Sign in to see full entry.
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Thursday, May 27, 2004
Intelligent disobedience
The title of this post comes from something I learned about training guide dogs for the blind. In addition to all the normal temperament tests dogs are put through to see if they'd be suitable, one of the things guide dogs are trained to do is to use good judgment. A well-trained guide dog will balk... Sign in to see full entry.
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Wednesday, May 26, 2004
The things some people think
In reading Pecanflower's blog Lesbian Lessons this afternoon, I was reminded of something my informant told me about my former boyfriend. Long after we broke up, he got the idea in his mind (aided and abetted by a friend of his) that I had attacked him using psychic means. Now, it must be understood... Sign in to see full entry.
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Tuesday, May 25, 2004
The hazards of breaking up
This is something I didn't cover in my last post, much to my everlasting regret. I have read that it is often more dangerous to be separated from an abusive partner than it is to be with him. I think there are a number of reasons for this. First of all, when you're with him or her, you belong to... Sign in to see full entry.
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Friday, May 21, 2004
Handling breakups
Just today, I was reading one of my favorite bloggers, Pecanflower, talk about her breakup with her spouse, J. I believe strongly that she is doing the right thing; however, her experience brought back a lot of memories for me of relationships gone by. Specifically, I was reminded of something I'd... Sign in to see full entry.
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The name of the post is derived from a Francis Schaeffer book, and intended to rebut something I'd seen on the Internet. The blog itself is about what I've learned about relationships from the ones I've had, and the ones I've observed. It will not be pleasant to read, and might wander off-topic occasionally, but is intended to be a long-term blog reading like a public journal.  Links
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