Thursday, April 28, 2005Remaining silentThere are two choices any abuse survivor has: remaining silent or telling one's story in order to help those who are being victimized right now. Based on the research I have done on domestic violence, my impression is that abusers would rather we remained silent. It is in this way that they avoid... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 2:55 PM Comments (3) (link) Wednesday, April 27, 2005One sign among manyIn reading a list of signs of abuse, I found one that really stood out for me. The list of signs includes a rush to pressure the victim into committing to a long-term relationship. What this means is that often on the first date, a potential abuser will expect that his or her victim will want to be... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 12:43 PM Comments (0) (link) Tuesday, April 26, 2005You learn something new every dayReading the comments to my last post, I was struck by something unusual - someone else reported the same phenomenon I experienced. My point in mentioning this is that there is strength in numbers, and that there is more to the issue of domestic violence than I figured. In the comments section of my... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 12:07 PM Comments (0) (link) Monday, April 25, 2005Characteristics of the abuserThis website details some common characteristics of abusers, with the understanding that not every characteristic is common to each individual abuser. I would like to add some characteristics which are not specifically mentioned on the website. For instance, look at the way your intended treats... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 10:44 AM Comments (4) (link) Friday, April 22, 2005BDSM and abuseThis is a topic of interest to me because my former boyfriend is heavily "into" BDSM, or bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism. (You can get some idea of his preferences by reading this website.) I don't know if this is still true, but the SM part of BDSM (standing for sexual Sadism and sexual... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 10:17 AM Comments (0) (link) This website, produced by the American Bar Association, gives readers some idea of who is at special risk of being abused in an intimate relationship. Evidently, the major risk factor is simply being female. In hetrerosexual relationships, the vast majority of victims of abuse are female. I believe,... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 9:04 AM Comments (5) (link) Thursday, August 12, 2004A post I'd like you to readI would like you to read this post, in my blog My Journal. It's important, and it explains a lot of references to "my informant" in the blog you are currently reading. Thanks. Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 7:20 AM Comments (0) (link) Thursday, July 8, 2004Thanks!Editormum left a very insightful comment on one of my other blogs which has some relevance to this blog. I've been stuck in something of a "pity the poor abuse survivor" mode while writing this blog. That's why I haven't written in here very much - I don't want to be stuck in that mode, but I'm... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 10:30 AM Comments (0) (link) Wednesday, June 30, 2004Does anyone remember the Lisa Steinberg case?Joel Steinberg, the man who illegally adopted Lisa, was released from prison today after serving fifteen years of a 25-year sentence for Lisa's murder. I don't know if anyone remembers the controversy surrounding this case, but I have some vague memories of it. I remember specifically that Hedda... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 9:50 AM Comments (4) (link) Wednesday, June 16, 2004Is it love or is it enabling?First of all, thanks to Editormum for suggesting this particular topic. Many of us have a difficult time telling the difference between love and enabling. In fact, a joke in the recovery community states that you're enabling if you offer someone a cup of coffee while you're over at the coffee pot... Sign in to see full entry.posted by kidnykid at 9:24 AM Comments (2) (link) |
About this BlogThe name of the post is derived from a Francis Schaeffer book, and intended to rebut something I'd seen on the Internet. The blog itself is about what I've learned about relationships from the ones I've had, and the ones I've observed. It will not be pleasant to read, and might wander off-topic occasionally, but is intended to be a long-term blog reading like a public journal. Links |
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