A Lifetime of Holy Relationship

Wednesday, August 24, 2011

Emma may be thinking 'That I am the direct cause of her pain … ñ I am reminded of the Course in Miracles book the channeled statement: “I am never upset for the reasons I think I am” This strikes me as true in my own experience. I create all my feelings, usually in response to the thoughts which I also create. And my thoughts usually occur as a result of my perceptions of 'how the world is' and 'how I am' and how I believe others are toward me,IE, what I believe to be real. That is often the... Sign in to see full entry.

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

My Relationship Journal - Trouble in Paridise

My Retreat Journal I just got Emma's cryptic email which stated in its entirety: “Sorry Jim Norton, but Emma is so done with this... “ SHOCK!!!! Acceptance … reconsidering, I think she is wrong.......Doing wine thirty with Ahmad and Khabir. Emma is thinking: 'How could he doubt my love after the few days we spent before in loving bliss. Wednesday – August 17 Th 2011 Emma may be thinking ' I cannot be with a man who does not believe me.” This may be a case where my own inner hurting child did me... Sign in to see full entry.

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Sharing a few of my own negative core-beliefs.

Accepting for the moment, this definition of a negative core belief: Negative core beliefs are those strongly held beliefs about ourselves that influence what we think and how we feel. For example, if you suffer from social anxiety disorder (SAD), you may believe that you must be liked by everyone in order to be a good person. These are some of the negative core beliefs I have been able to identify within myself: I am often an outsider in groups I belong to I am an oddball in groups that I... Sign in to see full entry.

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Negative Core Beliefs

In his book, Conscious Loving, Henry Grayson suggests a sample list of possible negative core beliefs that we may be able to cop to. Here is a partial list: I am not lovable Love will smother me Love is dangerous I do not deserve to be happy Marriage is a trap or bondage Life has to be a struggle Relationships must be a struggle Surrender means I will be controlled I will always be an outsider People will not like me as I am Do any of these fit for you? (I can own a few). (to be continued) Sign in to see full entry.

Monday, August 15, 2011

Core Beliefs and Relationship

We are all operating on unchecked assumptions and hidden programming. We have a bio-computer which is incredible and elegant. It allows us to drive a car, fix a meal, make love, and feel so many things. But, there is a problem. This awesome bio-computer, like all computers can only work according to its programming. Interestingly, our original programming or 'core beliefs' was out of our hands. Mother, Father, Sister, Brother, Teacher, and others programmed us from birth and throughout... Sign in to see full entry.

Tuesday, July 26, 2011


When an intimate partner allows hurt to be covered by anger, things can get pretty ugly. I wonder why we avoid experience the pain of hurt in favor of our reactive anger. Perhaps we feel more powerful and in control when anger energy flows. Hurt can often leave us feeling rather helpless and small. The problem is this: anger is so often destructive and hurtful, striking out at those who we perceive as threats. Often, the closer our relationship, the more destructive and harmful is our our anger.... Sign in to see full entry.

Sunday, July 24, 2011

Vows of commitment

Beloved, I am smitten by the integrity of your spirit and life. I believe that together we create a greater blessing for all because of the bond and commitment that we have made with one another. Therefore, I choose to honor you and us with the following intentions: I give you my whole self materially, emotionally and spiritually. I dedicate myself to your well being on all levels. I will love you to the best of my ability and pledge to forgive you all misunderstandings, hurts, and failings. I... Sign in to see full entry.

Saturday, June 25, 2011

Relationship Complaint Department

How could she do that? What was she thinking? How can I respond with higher love? How can fear be overhealed by love? What is the most hurtful thing you could say to a man who loves you so much he finished his work and drove thirty miles to help you because you said you were overwhelmed with work, and awkwardly complained about standing around? How about? "Well why don't you just get out of my store and go on home... i do not want to play with anymore today (or this weekend as well)!" What was... Sign in to see full entry.

Sunday, February 13, 2011

An Allegory Continued - Example of Using the Gift of the Blessing

Let's use the recent events in Egypt: Choose to Bless the Victims (on all sides) Choose to Bless the Perpetrators Choose to bless all who have witnessed these events. It is just that simple. Sign in to see full entry.

Saturday, February 12, 2011

Allegory Continues

At this point it must suffice to let you know that she was right, 'I could not believe her story.' More, I dare not say for fear of giving away her identity by some quirky detail revealed in its telling. I will tell you this: I felt I had to refund her missed appointment fee. She clearly could not have let me know she was going to miss the appointment and the reasons were just as clearly out of her control. The next fifty minutes were spent in 'trauma recovery' Humans appear to be unique in... Sign in to see full entry.

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