"I realized that it was not that I didn't want to go on without him. I did. It was just that I didn't know why I wanted to go on." - Kay Redfield Jamison, Nothing Was the Same Could you do something that you have never done before? This doesn't mean skydiving or running a marathon. Make your bed... Sign in to see full entry.
Monday, February 19, 2024
Saturday, February 17, 2024
"I know now what was happening to me, what was overwhelming me, what was about to consume and almost destroy me. Didier had even given me a name for it - assassin grief, he'd once called it: the kind of grief that lies in wait and attacks you from ambush, with no warning and no mercy. I know now... Sign in to see full entry.
Monday, December 11, 2023
"Community is about sharing my life; about allowing the chaos of another's circumstances to infringe on mine; about permitting myself to be known without constraint; about resigning myself to needing others." - Sandy Oshiro Rosen, Bare: The Misplaced Art of Grieving and Dancing Even if you have... Sign in to see full entry.
Sunday, December 10, 2023
"The sunlight now lay over the valley perfectly still. I went over to the graveyard beside the church and found them under the old cedars... I am finding it a little hard to say that I felt them resting there, but I did. I felt their completeness as whatever they had been in the world. I knew I had... Sign in to see full entry.
Saturday, December 9, 2023
"And they had folded his brother's hands across his suited chest as if he would be preserved in this sanguine pose forever, but only the heavy callouses visible at the sides of his hands seemed real. It was only the callouses that appeared to be familiar and believable." - Kent Haruf, Eventide.... Sign in to see full entry.
Friday, December 8, 2023
"If it is possible to die of grief, then why on earth can't someone be healed by happiness?" - Jodi Picoult, Keeping Faith Your moments of joy are to be savored, but they won't prevent grief from creeping in at times. Once you make peace with that, the moments of grief won't catch you off guard... Sign in to see full entry.
Thursday, December 7, 2023
"Unacquainted with grief, I knew not how to appraise my bereavement; I could not rightly estimate the strength of the stroke." - Ambrose Bierce, The Moonlit Road and Other Ghost and Horror Stories How can you measure grief? It is impossible. I think you need to deal with it when it flares up and be... Sign in to see full entry.
Sunday, December 3, 2023
I was tired of well-meaning folks, telling me it was time I got over being heartbroke. When somebody tells you that, a little bell ought to ding in your mind. Some people don't know grief from garlic grits. There's somethings a body ain't meant to get over. No I'm not suggesting you wallow in... Sign in to see full entry.
Saturday, December 2, 2023
"Edgar, do you actually think that how long a person grieves is a measure of how much they loved someone? There's no rulebook that says how to do this." She laughed, bitterly. "Wouldn't that be great? No decisions to make. Everything laid right out for us. But there's no such thing. You want facts,... Sign in to see full entry.
Friday, December 1, 2023
"It is grief that develops the powers of the mind." - Marcel Proust Grief is going to pop into your mind. Its arrival is unpredictable but undeniable. What can you do? Know that it is coming, but also know that you can cope with it while it lasts. Sign in to see full entry.